Everything is boring - is this peri/meno ?

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Just that really.

a few examples ..

Could go to the pub with DH over the bank holiday - but what is the point when we could have the same drinks cheaper at home and the same conversation, without the hassle of getting ready to go out.

Could go to the coast for the day - but what is the point ... we wouldn't be going in/on the sea, we would only be eating/drinking there and we could eat out in our local town just as easily, saving the petrol and the awful crowds. The food at the coast would be the same mediocre overpriced microwaved food we have in our local area ie a waste of money.

When I was 17 I would have given anything to have the money we have now (not rich, but obvs a lot better off than when I was younger), the car, the option to do/go anywhere (within reason).

Nothing is enjoyable anymore. Everything is overpriced and not worth the money.

I/we work long hours in the week .. what the hell is it all for ? we long for a place in the sun or moving to the sun .. but that will never happen.

I long for something to happen .. but I don't know what ...

No expert, but I think so. I used to be a spicy, interesting person, always with a dream and a scheme, every hobby going. Now I'm just....flat. nothing. Nothing is interesting, i just think 'why bother?'

I definitely felt very flat about things I used to enjoy, my first reaction was just "What's the point?". I have HRT patches and they were transformative, I feel much more positive and motivated.

@Candlesniffin yup totally 'why bother'

@maslinpan interesting re the HRT, I have not yet explored HRT.

Right now, I'm ready to jack in my job, sell the house, pay the mortgage/debts off, sell everything and start again in the sun with just our clothes with us. Obvs that won't happen, plus we have teen DC to think about who have schools, friends and their social networks all close by

this is completely how I feel only it’s worse as we don’t have much money at all, I feel broke and meh

It was for me. Google "anhedonia" as in the opposite of hedonism. The book "feeling blah" really helped me. Took a couple of years to get through it, mind....

I have felt a bit like this myself, not really motivated or jazzed about anything. I'm trying testosterone to see if it helps as it helps with dopamine and drive i.e. libido may equate to drive for a lot of things or so the thinking goes. There are some studies showing favourable results.

I have only been on it a short while so no dramatic changes yet. I'm also looking into functional mushrooms like Lions Mane and Reishi.

I'm feeling like this

The only thing that interests me is looking at clothes that I have no reason to wear!

I was on an exercise challenge earlier in the year. I dropped it because it was too hard. And I was sick of eating so much protein. But it occurred to me today that it was probably keeping me motivated. I think I might have to restart but I did need a trainer to keep me motivated it was just once a week, but it's a big cost

My sister tells me that this gets better and I will get back to normal she said it was a tough couple of years

I should be grateful for so many things, and I am really but I just feel totally blah and not like doing anything and even the washing up is an effort like a huge effort

I’m like this. I’m 45 and post meno - went into menopause aged 37 due to complex autoimmune issues. I feel like I’ve eaten / been / done everything a thousand times now and it’s all so boring and repetitive. The only thing that gives me any joy at all is travelling so I save my (fairly low) income for that. Otherwise I’d just rather stay home and watch tv, read etc. Just bored of other people and all the things I used to like, and everything feels too expensive and a waste of money.

It could be, or it could be anhedonia (a symptom of depression). You should talk to your GP if it doesn’t get better x

@Pepperedpickles yes everything seems like that

Do you remember that episode of Sex and the City where Samantha complains that they should rename New York "Same York"

I feel like that. We went away for a weekend it was nice, but it felt like very hard work and I was tired for two days when we got back

But I feel as if I can hardly remember it, which doesn't make sense as it was only a month ago

The last few days I've been really down, I think I'm premenstrual but who knows at this stage because I don't know when My period is actually going to show up

Things don't register in my brain the way they should

Then I think about going away and I think well I would only really want to go to a place that's nice and quiet and full of nature and oh yeah, I already live here (I do really love where I live) and the journeys anywhere else would annoy me and I have to pack so much stuff just to exist in another space it's kind of mad - I don't leave the house without make up now because I look terrible that's a relatively recent development

I have spent the last hour looking at silk and cashmere clothing. Obviously, I can't buy it. And I have no need for it. I don't want the outgoing lifestyle back. I don't know just nothing appeals. Is that how women end up with too many shoes that they're never gonna wear? I do actually know someone who has lots of shoes that she's not going to wear, but I would not be able to spend that money. It's like she just enjoys having them in a cupboard to admire them.

But this is what my sister reassures me will pass, the blahs

Maybe tomorrow will be better
Also, I've been on a long walk today and I seem to have a lot of aches and pains
Again, she said hers went away after menopause

I get like this when my screen time is too high. Especially if I have spent a lot of time watching influencers with their massive homes that are always being renovated, going on holiday or doing shopping hauls where they look amazing! I find a screen detox helps me realise that isn’t that bad and also my attention span for the mundane improves greatly!

This is me. I hate it but am too tired and too disinterested to try to change.

I feel a bit like this.

It may be partly hormones but I think it’s also just that at this age nothing is new any more.

The things I enjoy, I’ve already done loads so although I still enjoy them it’s a bit samey.

Things I haven’t ever done (marathons, drugs, obscure hobbies), it’s generally because I have no desire to.

I don’t think it’s possible to get back to the excitement of late teens and 20s when so many things were new. Maybe “contentment” is what to aim for rather than excitement?

I do still bloody love dancing though.

Just in case anyone can relate

After I posted it, my period did start and I was actually really perky until about 3 o'clock in the morning 🤷🏻‍♀️ and got lots of chores done

This morning, I was in a really good mood

Then by 4 pm I started to feel a bit strange
And then just cannot focus on anything
Like I've hit a wall

I wasn't actually even working today so in that respect it doesn't matter but I'm literally just wandering around going - I don't know what to do with myself

It's raining or I'd have gone for a walk
Started to exercise and couldn't finish

What is this its very weird?

I don't think living alone helps in this situation because you haven't got anyone's energy to vibe off