I am on 100mg patch and 100 utrogestan daily, I'm in perimenopause still.
My GP did say I could use a second patch along with the 100mg one as some women need higher estrogen doses. I'm a little hesitant about it though.
If I were to do this I would increase the utrogestan, but I don't find using utrogestan a problem. I'm considering upping it to 200mg daily as it is, after some discussion with someone else on here recently who mentioned it's BMS guidance now.
I've never used gel, but I thought some women split the dose and used half in the morning and half in the evening, could you try this? You could use one blob in the morning and one at lunchtime?
I've never found I felt different in the mornings to the evenings with the patches, I'm not sure how that would work as they have a different distribution pattern to gel. They are more of a slow ramp up and on over 3/4 days, so they are at their highest in the middle two days. I believe the gel is 24 hours, so might make more sense if you felt worse in the afternoon maybe ? I'm not too sure.
Perhaps trying a time out or something in the middle of the day or doing something different to usual for an hour would help ? Exercise?
I do recognise the detached feelings you mention as being a menopause symptom.
Never tried testosterone, but it is available on the NHS. People seem to find it hard to get their GP to prescribe it, mine is open to it.