I am just so angry

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Name change for this - think I have I have started with symptoms of perimenopause i suspected it for a while age and mood swings etc

I just need a little vent and to be told it gets easier.

I am just so angry with the world
I am angry I couldn’t have children
I annoyed DH isnt more supportive
I am angry mother is alcoholic and needs support and keeps saying her life would be better if she had grandchildren ( it’s not like I didn’t try )
I Am fed up of doing absolutely everything I can to be healthy and body not responding

I could keep going but I think that’s enough self pity for now

I think you have some genuine problems, not just peri. I would be angry if my mum were alcoholic and kept taking digs. I am sorry life is hard.

It could be peri, but it also sounds like you've got lots of good reasons to feel angry.

It is normal to feel angry and sad about not being able to have children.

It is very normal to feel anger at a relative who is being hurtful and who may have always been an issue. You say she 'needs support' - have you asked yourself if you want to be that support or if you need to tell her that you finished with being her punching bag (verbally from what you say)

It's not wrong to be angry. It's how you manage it. Some people find exercise works - running/boxing or team sports. Others use music or journalling.

Do you have friends that you can say 'I'm feeling angry at the moment, can I vent to you?' Would you consider self refrring to talk therapy or speaking to a GP?

That’s peri for you. Anger is a foremost symptom.

Have you ever considered going to a rage room? Different reasons but I was once very angry too, smashing things up that I was allowed to smash up really, really helped felt like therapy!

Sounds like peri to me, I hated everyone. Loathed life, detested my job and had 6 months off with acute stress, Now in my 60's and pretty much back to normal.

I think it can really amplify things as when both oestrogen and progesterone fluctuate and decline it affects our amygdala and stress responses. Progesterone made me feel like I could cope with stressors again, not perfect but coping. That said, that is a lot op and I think in our late 30s and 40s we can have so many plates spinning.

I found this write up helpful op www.drlouisenewson.co.uk/knowledge/why-menopause-can-make-you-angry

Yes, sounds like peri, the rage is real! HRT will help, as will trying to get outside everyday and lifting weights. Nothing reduces my rage like picking up heavy lumps of metal. Roaring whilst doing it is also helpful, which is why i do my weights alone, at home 🤣🤣🤣

I think you have some real reasons to feel as you do.

Thank you for all the replies

I think it’s been a particularly tough few weeks with various people close to me announcing pregnancies which just makes things more sensitive.

@Ohfuckrucksack unfortunately she has no one else and I would only feel guilty if I didn’t help her and knew she was struggling.

@WeepingAngelInTheTardis this is a fantastic idea