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Sex with new partner after menopause, advice on vaginal eastrogen please

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helenaxxx · 22/02/2026 21:12

I’m 55 and just had sex with my new boyfriend after 5 years of no sex. Last time I was still having periods. Just very concerned about my vagina coping with all the sex that goes on at the start of a new relationship, New boyfriend loves having sex.
I didn’t use any lubricant or moisturiser and am not on any HRT. I decided to give it a try without any assistance. Sex was fine, and I was wet enough just, but there was a small amount of blood and so I must have had a small tear. I’m a little bit sore but there is no more bleeding, so minor.
i didn’t experience the same satisfaction that I used to, but was enjoyable. Will definitely need to use lubricant for prolonged sex. He’s the same age as me and likes long sessions in bed. I loved this years ago when my vaginal was up to it,
im wondering if I should take vaginal eastrogen and what experience other women have had ?
Will this make it easier for my vagina to cope with lots of sex? Will it make sex more pleasurable and enjoyable ? Have people had side effects? Is a vaginal moisturiser just as good ?
Ive got a week before we try again and ive got the vaginal eastrogen so I could start it.
Around a month ago I experienced an itchy dry vagina for the first time. Now I feel well lubricated because im spending more time with the new man.
has anyone else had experience they can share on this, thanks

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HeartyBlueRobin · 22/02/2026 21:13

The female condom can help with sensitive skin postmenopause.

Imdunfer · 22/02/2026 21:14

You can buy vaginal oestrogen from your local chemist and online chemists without prescription.

It does make sex a lot easier. I take it now for a narrowed urethra which was making it take a long time to pee!

I use one called Gina.

ChilledProsecco · 27/02/2026 21:57

Similar situation here - a long time without sex & a lovely new boyfriend!

I’m using 10mg vagifem on prescription but still experiencing dryness.

I might ask my GP for a moisturiser, or try oestrogen cream in addition.

I’ve also found it’s slower to get aroused & harder to climax. Bloody menopause!

Shrinkhole · 27/02/2026 22:01

https://www.mygina.co.uk/

You can buy some online without a prescription and I’d definitely recommend giving it a try. It made things a lot better for me. It doesn’t work straight away though. You need to use it consistently for a few months and keep using it.

Shrinkhole · 27/02/2026 22:13

The Gina is a pessary that you use internally BTW if that wasn’t obvious. That is more effective than an external cream.

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