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What is happening to me? I don’t recognise myself :(

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Wearyandteary80 · 03/01/2026 12:19

I’m struggling. I always have to an extent- get easily bogged down by everyday life and all the demands it places on us. However, recently, I just can’t stop crying and feel like things are spiralling out of control. I’m forgetful, terrible brain fog, disorganised, tired all the time (but then will have a burst of intense focus on ‘getting stuff done’ to solve the feelings of overwhelm). I feel like I’m letting my family and colleagues down by being so scatty and making silly mistakes. I just can’t seem to catch up.

Physical symptoms are dry skin, very erratic periods (sometimes every two weeks, some times skipping a month or lighter than usual), weight gain around the middle, looking so much older recently. Could this be perimenopause? What should I do next? How do I start the discussion with a GP? I remember being concerned about early menopause a couple of years ago (erratic periods, family history) and had a blood test which I know can be unreliable but didn’t flag anything up.

I’m nearly 41 and both my mother and grandmother started menopause at this age (or slightly earlier).

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Wearyandteary80 · 03/01/2026 12:25

Oh, and spots on my face!

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eurotravel · 03/01/2026 12:29

All sounds like might well be

Ritaskitchen · 03/01/2026 12:32

Yes, it sounds very familiar. I am late 40s. HRT is helping

Wearyandteary80 · 03/01/2026 18:12

Thank you. I think I will book a doctors appointment to discuss. Might just sit in the consulting room chair and cry!

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eurotravel · 03/01/2026 18:40

Good luck! Took me ages to realise I was struggling and HRT has saved me

Bosabosa · 03/01/2026 18:45

Sounds like it to me. Hrt helps hugely.....doesn't solve it all but stops complete breakdown of self (which is where I was going)

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