Peri menapause and period very late or missed

[Reginaphalangeeeee]

Looking for some advice please.
I am 45 and had a tough year (grief hit me hard with my dad’s death this year & a stressful job). My period is now 12 days late!
This is the latest it’s ever been but looking at my cycle it seems to be lengthening out which I understand is normal in Peri.

I am definitely not pregnant as husband and I not getting along well right now and we are sleeping in separate rooms for our sanity.

I don’t think I have other peri-Symptoms other than maybe PMT is worse now and boobs less sore before periods.

I have lost significant weight this year (near 6 stone on mounjaro) and maybe this is a factor.?

But how do I know if period is just late or missed now?
What happens now? I don’t know what to expect.
My mum went through menapause early 40’s but we don’t have a good relationship so I don’t really have someone else to ask.

I guess I dont know if my stress, brain fogg and difficulties in life that I have put down to grief and stress are actually menapause but this very late or long cycle is making me think. Or maybe the pre Christmas stress (husband has been useless to share family burden and I may as well be Santa for all he knows) and viruses is cause of my lateness.

I guess I don’t know if I am looking into this too much or if I should speak to my GP as no other symptoms?

Thanks for any advice.

In Peri, my cycle can be anything from 20 to 60 days. It’s maddening.
Also struggle to know what is grief, stress or peri. It’s shit all these thing happen at once.

Best of luck navigating.

I’m similar to the PP - cycle length all over the place. Anywhere between 26 and 58 days.

It's nothing to worry about OP.

You're having irregular cycles, not a missed one.

A missed cycle is just that-your next period would be 28-30 days (average cycle) plus the 'usual' cycle length (28-30 days).

So roughly 60 days between one period and the next.
And if you missed 2 periods it would be a longer gap.

It can be hard to predict cycles because in peri they can become shorter (right down to 20 days) or much longer (missed cycles.)

If you have no other symptoms, there's nothing to talk to your GP about. What's happening is normal.

Stress can cause missed cycles but not usually on an ongoing basis.
Women who are very underweight can miss cycles and anorexia is a cause of missed cycles.

Sorry to hear about your dad's death.

Thank you. Grateful for solidarity & comparison.
period started today (day 44) so yes I guess late rather than missed.
seems to be alternate months. Maybe one ovary given up.

@Reginaphalangeeeee the peri year(s) were the most erratic I found. My periods were either months apart or biblical levels of bleeding. If you have an understanding GP it might be worth making an appointment? Sorry for your loss, these things do knock you for six x