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Early Perimenopause? 34 Years Old

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Piggel · 28/12/2025 21:12

Hi There!

As per the title I’m 34 years old with two DS’s, 3.5 & 2 years. 20 month age gap between the two. I’ve been through a rather full on couple of years, but have generally managed the ups and downs of 2 little ones as best as I can.

Now my periods. I came off birth control in December 2020 and fell into a 28 day cycle. Always started when I should, only had to use a medium tampon for a day or two, no cramping or low moods etc. Lasted 5 days. I’ve been really lucky that I’ve never suffered with my periods. After having my youngest my periods have been all over the place, but especially the past 6 months. My cycle varies from 25-27 days and it is 7 days of really heavy bleeding from the get go. And will have residual blood for a couple of days as well. I’m bleeding through tampons within a couple of hours so have to wear a pad too. But the biggest overnight change for me has been rage. It’s like a switch went off after my last period and I’ve been horrendous. And at the smallest, most minor things. I’ve been snapping at my DH & DCs when I would normally have a lot more patience. I have no resilience all of a sudden. I’ve been feeling so low and teary. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve cried/sobbed this month and I’m not normally a crier! On top of this I’m exhausted, have awful anxiety, have had a couple of panic attacks, my boobs have hurt a lot too. Haven’t really had insomnia or night sweats but my bedtime is getting later. Oh and the brain fog! I forgot what a glass bowl was called yesterday and had to ask my DH to tell me what it was as I stood there pointing at it!

Earlier in the year some routine bloods picked up on me having a folate and iron deficiency so I’ve been on tablets for that, yet still suffering from the above. Is it possible I’m beginning the transition to early menopause? Has this happened to anyone else? My DM says she never had another period after having my DB in her mid 30s so I guess it’s not outside the realms of possibilities. I’ve managed to get a GP appointment for this week but I’m expecting to be told I’m too young for Peri!

OP posts:
sheenaisapunkrocker · 29/12/2025 01:18

It's possible - your symptoms are consistent with peri; but also other things too. Maybe request a repeat blood test to rule other causes out. The biggest flag here for me was your family history which is highly relevant in menopause; your mum went through it early so you are likely to be similar to her. Ask your GP receptionist which GP is interested in women's health and menopause and go speak to them.

ThatAgileMintBiscuit · 29/12/2025 01:28

Hello ❤️ I’m 36 (37 next month) and really struggling too. I have all the same symptoms as you, OP, and I just wanted to say how much I empathise and send you some support.

I went to my GP several months ago and was prescribed antidepressants and the pill. I’ve been depressed before, and this doesn’t feel the same at all. I know my own body, and something just isn’t right. Didn’t take them as i truly believe I need HRT.

In the new year I’m planning to book in with a specialist at a menopause clinic. I’ve seen two doctors so far and neither of them have taken me seriously, mainly because they say I’m “too young” — despite the fact my mum had her last period at 45 It’s been really frustrating and disheartening. I was hoping to try HRT, but haven’t been able to get anywhere with it yet.

I really hope you have a better experience than I have so far. You’re not alone, and you’re not imagining this. Sending lots of support 🤍

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