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Feeling crazy

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Lovesdoodles · 19/12/2025 19:22

Hi, first time posting so hopefully I’m doing this right. I’ve always been an emotional person that could cry at an advert but lately I’m struggling to cope with my emotions, mainly an intense jealousy of my husbands friendship with a female work colleague. I’m hoping someone can suggest a supplement that will help me feel calmer and less crazy. I’m terrified he will develop feelings for this woman and I’ve asked him to keep it more professional, he reassures me that I’m the only person he wants and all she is just a work friend. Their contact is only in the office or teams messages/voice calls. I’ve seen messages from her where she said he was in her dream and he has to guess what they were doing, I was very taken aback by this however the messages were still jokey and she didn’t expand further on the dream itself. I have found quite a few messages from her could be taken as flirty but my husband doesn’t flirt back. I still would prefer it if he didn’t reply to such messages and keep the chat work related. He sees it as harmless friendship and tells me I’m being unreasonable for being upset. She has started asking for his advice on non work related issues too. I think I feel so bad about this because she is single and absolutely stunning with a fantastic career. Basically everything I’m not. We argue about this all the time and all I’ve wanted are boundaries put in place to stop the work relationship developing into more. I know he has to communicate with her for work and I don’t mind that, it’s the really random messages I don’t like. I see his messages as he will often ask me to reply to his other colleagues when he is busy. Im worried if I don’t stop being so upset by this it’s going to ruin my marriage. Thanks for any recommendations given.

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Coffeeblanketandabookplz · 19/12/2025 19:41

I'm not menopausal or perimenopausal and I would be annoyed at this too. Id be expecting husband to nip this in the bud. Make the new year about you, do things that make you feel great about yourself and so less focused on her, shes being really inappropriate asking him to guess what they were doing in her dream ffs what is she a teenager, you dont text that to married men, its flirty and youre not being unreasonable. Your husband is either playing dumb or genuinely oblivious but my guess would be he is enjoying the attention, however I would also be worried about how far it could potentially go.

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