Don’t want to go out. Anyone else?

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I’m 55, on HRT. I am supposed to be going out out tomorrow and am thinking of ways I can get out of it. I just don’t want to socialise anymore. Anyone else feel the same?

Sometimes and if I don’t want to go I don’t.
Last time I had to force myself was my DD’s friends DM’s 70th.
There’s 4 hours of my life I won’t get back 🤣

Me! I have literally just googled ‘why am I so antisocial’. I’m only 40 but am seriously becoming a recluse!

54 here and always tired, feel overweight and try not to commit to too many things as I know I just won’t my feel like it when the time comes. I stress about it several days in advance, sad really. I’m better with smaller get togethers where we can sit and chat, maybe a meal or theatre visit. Hate the thought of standing (sore feet!) trying to talk over noisy crowds so I just avoid that mostly. You are not alone!

Same here and it’s exacerbated by the fact that I work at home full time due to ill health too - I’ll find myself saying to DH let’s do something and he will agree despite being a home bird too and then I’ll gradually realise I don’t want to go.

Yes, same here. I want to go out and visit places and friends, but I have no motivation and I'm feeling low. The peri business is also bringing me down.

I’m the same, just knackered. Nothing left to give….

I’m 44 and been menopausal since 37 due to autoimmune issues. I never want to go out anymore. I enjoy days out with my dh and dc (adult age) but not remotely interested in socialising or going out in the evening (even with dh). I’m just too tired and enjoy my own space / being at home too much.

Hard same. I was always a bit like this, then being forced to stay home with the pandemic coinciding with peri kicking in kind of finished me off.

I do enjoy meeting friends for lunch, but want to be on the sofa in my pjs with my cat at night. I have quite a people-y job (lecturer) and just don’t have the energy any more. My DP would like to go out in the evenings more and I do try for him but he knows it’s an effort - I practically run to wash my face/get changed when we get in!

Yes! I barely leave the house anymore. Unless it's to walk the dog I just don't want to go anywhere or see anyone.

Thank you all! It’s less isolating knowing others feel the same. Lesson learnt I’ll be saying no to more invitations in the future!

Oh absolutely the same! Peri is in full swimg here - I just feel less sociable now especially with the tiredness at the end of the working week - if i have agreed to a social event I never seem to look forward to it. It may have something to do with the quality of conversation sometimes that can be quite one sided ifykwim! I don't want to be be someone's constant sounding board in my precous spare time.
Sending hugs ❤️

I came to this board to see if any recent threads about this exact topic!

I am late forties, must be peri, and could have written many of these posts.

Not sure what the best approach is - give in to it and just become a semi-recluse or force myself to see people I don’t want to see. There’s probably a balance between the two.