I just can’t get satisfied!

[oestrogenlover]

So I’m early 50’s. Perimenopausal and so sexually dissatisfied it aches. (Literally)

During this part of my cycle I get so horny I can’t think of anything else. We had about a 5 yr period of little or no sex and we are beginning to pick up again but husband isn’t that interested in more than once per week. He’s late 50’s.

I literally want him to shag me senseless. Doing it myself isn’t working.

Any advice?

Ask husband can you open up the marriage.

There's nothing but learning to live with it, I think. Fairy miserable but I hope it passes in the end.

I’m in a similar phase although only early-mid forties so potentially a lot of feeling like this left (a weird change from the last 10 years since having my youngest child when I’d have said I always enjoyed it when it happened but I wouldn’t have minded particularly if I never did it again!). My husband is amenable but there’s only so much I can expect given that one of our kids has a disability and sleeps poorly so we can’t afford to be up all night/early in the morning. I find it helpful to think of the hormone surge that’s causing it and how it must be similar to how poor old teenage boys feel, suddenly obsessed with sex, but at least there are no visible signs with women plus I do have a willing (usually) partner on tap, so they definitely have it worse!