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What if it isn't perimenopause?

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midlifeish · 25/05/2025 21:15

Long story short, I have not been myself for quite sometime. Mood swings or completely low mood, zero libido, trouble staying asleep, painful joints, feeling weak/lethargic…
I went to the Dr about it but I had kind of put it down to grief as I hadn't long lost my dad. We had a chat about hrt and she said she would be happy for me to give it a go. I said i’d think about it, left it about five months and went back to get it. I'm now almost a month into my first hrt treatment and have a bit of anxiety about it.

What if it isn't perimenopause and I'm just pumping myself full of all these extra hormones? What impact will that have?

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Springadorable · 25/05/2025 21:39

Did you have any blood tests done? It's probably worth checking you aren't deficient in anything as that can seriously effect your sleep and your mood. I hope things are easier soon x

angstybaby · 26/05/2025 13:21

I'm sorry to hear about your dad.

how are you feeling? Have your symptoms improved? all of them sound like PM but I think you do need to give it 3 months minimum.

I was also anxious about taking hormones but remember that the amount of hormones in HRT is a fraction of the contraceptive pill. I felt an immediate improvement, then a gradual improvement. I'm still not back to myself but I'm starting to think that I won't really feel like myself until I'm actually menopausal. I have some days when I'm back to myself but others when it's awful. I'm trying to accept that there will just be bad days and to not freak out about them or try to keep on as normal but to give myself a break.

I hope it's starting to get better.

Foolsgold74 · 26/05/2025 13:23

How old are you?

Devilsmommy · 26/05/2025 13:25

All the symptoms you described I have too. Mines low vit d, low folate, low iron and calcium. You need blood tests because you need your thyroid checking aswell

Unbeleevable · 26/05/2025 13:28

Hrt actually has some health benefits unless you are high risk for certain cancers already, it’s not a bad thing to take. Go and watch the Davina McCall program and you’ll feel better.

im really sorry you lost your dad. I was physically and emotionally devastated when my dad and my mum died.

It can be both things, and/or something else too. Give the HRT a go.

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midlifeish · 26/05/2025 13:35

Springadorable · 25/05/2025 21:39

Did you have any blood tests done? It's probably worth checking you aren't deficient in anything as that can seriously effect your sleep and your mood. I hope things are easier soon x

Yes I had bloods done last year. Hormones appeared normal at that time but vitamin d is low and thyroid is borderline and needs to be checked yearly

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midlifeish · 26/05/2025 13:36

angstybaby · 26/05/2025 13:21

I'm sorry to hear about your dad.

how are you feeling? Have your symptoms improved? all of them sound like PM but I think you do need to give it 3 months minimum.

I was also anxious about taking hormones but remember that the amount of hormones in HRT is a fraction of the contraceptive pill. I felt an immediate improvement, then a gradual improvement. I'm still not back to myself but I'm starting to think that I won't really feel like myself until I'm actually menopausal. I have some days when I'm back to myself but others when it's awful. I'm trying to accept that there will just be bad days and to not freak out about them or try to keep on as normal but to give myself a break.

I hope it's starting to get better.

Thank you. That is really helpful to know. The hrt has already improved my mood I think but it has also given me headaches and some nausea so I guess it needs time to settle.

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midlifeish · 26/05/2025 13:37

Foolsgold74 · 26/05/2025 13:23

How old are you?

I'm 42

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midlifeish · 26/05/2025 13:37

Unbeleevable · 26/05/2025 13:28

Hrt actually has some health benefits unless you are high risk for certain cancers already, it’s not a bad thing to take. Go and watch the Davina McCall program and you’ll feel better.

im really sorry you lost your dad. I was physically and emotionally devastated when my dad and my mum died.

It can be both things, and/or something else too. Give the HRT a go.

Thank you. I'll give it a watch

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