Hi
I hope you don't mind me posting here but there is no good advice on the internet for males
My wife of 12 years is peri menopausal and started hrt in November of last year, she already had the coils fitted but was prescribed patches alongside, for about 2mths after the prescription it was like I had my wife back, she told me she loved me and wanted kisses and cuddles all the time (something we hadn't done for so long). This drifted back after that period and she even started calling me mate. We don't have sex but that I understand and don't care about.
I have educated myself as far as possible on the menopause and the horrible time that a women's body and mind go through and have tried to support my wife as much as possible even though I'm not sure she sees it and I know that's not her fault.
The reason I am here for support and advice is that I am in the military and am a month into a 8mth deployment, I didn't want to leave her when she is in this transition or when our marriage is so fragile. Since I left she hasn't really spoke to me, she has my email and also I have WiFi access so she can message, she doesn't know if she misses me and I'm finding it really hard. If I initiate conversation I may get a reply, sometimes not. I understand that she is busy as we have 2 young children and a house to maintain. She finds time to make posts on social media, however not the time to speak to me.
I'm not trying to be needy, I just don't want to lose the love of my life, she's my whole world, I just want to interact with her and know she still cares, it's hard being away from your loved ones but I'm finding it harder not speaking to the one I care the most about.
I hope this doesn't come across like her world should revolve around me because that is not the case, I just still want to try and be a small part of it.
Thankyou for taking the time to read my post.