Advice for concerned husband

[AgileCrab]

Hi,
In my opinion, my wife has been suffering from symptoms of peri for at least a year, super heavy periods and bad pain, anxiety, stress, severe fatige, rage, zero libido. Or, she hasn't and there's a million other reasons why all of the above occur... She's 43.

I really want her to talk to get a blood test, talk to GP, but a) I don't think she realises that these symptoms are all related and b) seems to be in the grin and bear it mindset.

What advice would you offer to me to help suggest that she gets help - we don't really talk about this sort of stuff, but I really want her to get help, for her sake but also for our family's sake too.

Well I'd give it to her straight. "You're a narky bitch and it's affecting the whole family, it could be hormone related given your age and other symptoms you're experiencing. So please get to the GP and sort it out, for everyone's sake, because we love you but you're doing our heads in and we don't like seeing you suffer either". I'm guessing it's the rage that's the main problem for the family. Offer to go with her to the appointment. Unless she asks what other symptoms, I wouldn't mention her lack of libido, even if it's a problem for you, because it'll make you look like a dickhead. And poking a bear with a sore head is just not sensible. Bring it up in future if necessary, once the mental health symptoms are under control. No woman who is stressed, plagued by anxiety and feeling epic rage is going to want to have sex, especially if she's also knackered and bleeding a lot.

The heavy periods could be causing anaemia, which can cause debilitating tiredness. So even if she's happy to walk around in an angry stressed out fog alienating everyone she loves, she still needs checking out physically in case she needs treatment.