Peri-meno painful sex

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Have name changed for this for obvious reasons and apologies in advance if TMI but I’ve been on HRT oestrogel & mirena coil for 2 years now which have been great for all the usual symptoms but recently experiencing some problems when having sex. Am often too dry and lube used to solve that but now am sometimes too tight for penetration. Never thought that would be a cause for concern having had kids but it’s making sex near impossible 😫 I am not having any libido issues so it is frustrating. Has anyone had similar and did Vaginal Oestrogen help? I know you can get some creams over the counter but I’m under 50 so think it’ll need to be prescribed.

You need vaginal estrogen- it's that simple- that's what it's for !

Yes you will need a prescription for your GP .

I don't know if they do an age check for buying it online from a pharmacy but they probably do in person.

Vaginal atrophy, now called genitourinary symptoms of menopause, can sometimes get better with hrt but usually needs topical oestrogen again. Theres’s a VA fb group with thousands of members, with many many recommendations for prescription meds (Blissel, vagifem, estring to name but a few) and otc moisturisers and lubes too.

Thank you both for replying. It’s not something I’ve dared talk to friends about but which it was more openly discussed. I’ll look up that FB group too.

The sexual disfunction such as VA and clitoral atrophy has been the most distressing part of peri meno for me so far. a couple of years ago I never new these issues were even a thing but seem to be quite common from what I'm reading on here.
Why does no one speak about this as though it's almost taboo. I've always heard the opposite that women in later life often have the best sex of their lives as they no longer have to worry about pregnancy and kids are grown etc. so what a huge shock this has been to me. I'm extremely distressed and depressed at the thought that sex is over forever for me.
I've yet to go to my GP as my GP is absolutely useless anyway and I feel embarrassed and as though womens sexual disfunction issues are not important enough to the NHS.
I've also just started dating a new man I really don't know what I'm going to do when and if we become intimate, my head wants to but body doesn't. it's so depressing.

The facebook page someone suggested above is helpful - if only to realise you are not alone and this is more common than you’d think. I’m waiting for a GP appointment but have been told it’s “not urgent” so there’s a 6 week wait. Feels pretty flipping urgent to me. I plucked up the courage to talk to a friend who mentioned she’s got exactly the same issues and it’s made me wonder how many more women I know are struggling with it too? Hope you get some relief. Good luck with your new partner. If he’s a good man he’ll be understanding.