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Anyone feeling totally fed up and bored with everything?

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Whatfreshhellisthis2 · 09/04/2025 20:50

I’m on HRT, but since being in menopause, I’ve noticed that I just can’t be bothered with anything anymore.

I used to be very driven at work- now I just can’t be bothered and feel like chucking in my career.

I’m sick of sexist twats and being patronised and treated like an idiot because I’m a woman. To be fair, this hasn’t changed in years, but I’m so done with it. after a particularly stressful day at work dealing with annoying ( male) colleagues, I actually felt jealous of women who found a husband with a good job and just went part time.

I think my tolerance for dealing with everyday misogyny has disappeared.

i used to love being active, running and going to the gym- i now have to drag myself to these activities.

Is this just what it’s like now?

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Pamspeople · 14/04/2025 18:07

Frannieisnthappy · 13/04/2025 00:16

Possibly I have found my people… its the work thing that bothers me the most. I used to be so motivated and got on and now I just hate being there. The childless women in their 30s are just mean and generally no one knows their arse from their elbow.

Im on HRT but thinking I probably need a review; I have had the mirena since 2020, 100mg patches and take utrogeston each night but have had increased spotting of late. I cant even be bothered to look it up.

And yes, I feel like a flump too…

Ar you taking utrogestan because the mirena is no longer providing your progesterone? Otherwise you're getting two lots. If you get on OK with mirena you could get it replaced then you could stop the utrogestan?

Pamspeople · 14/04/2025 18:14

There's a theory that the hormonal combination that enables women to raise children, build families, look after everyone else, put up with bollocks of all kinds...that changes massively at peri, we don't need all the bonding and harmony hormones so much. Like coming out of a trance and we see all the crap we're expected to enjoy - and then the rage or utter tedium comes to kick us up the arse to make some changes...

Fordian · 15/04/2025 12:38

I find that if I’m fortunate enough to wake up one day with a sense of get up and go, a rare event, the issue is there’s so much that NEEDS doing that when I get to the bits I WANT to do, my enthusiasm has gone.

I know I can’t just say ‘tomorrow I’ll do such and such’, especially if that thing requires commitment, because I can just as easily wake up ‘can’t be arsed’.

I'm sort of retired but I do a ‘bank’ job, but I just agree to shifts because I know I may as well go to work where the nature of the job requires some focus, and get paid as opposed to sitting around at home, lying in til 11, scrolling on my phone.

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Whatfreshhellisthis2 · 15/04/2025 16:03

Pamspeople · 14/04/2025 18:14

There's a theory that the hormonal combination that enables women to raise children, build families, look after everyone else, put up with bollocks of all kinds...that changes massively at peri, we don't need all the bonding and harmony hormones so much. Like coming out of a trance and we see all the crap we're expected to enjoy - and then the rage or utter tedium comes to kick us up the arse to make some changes...

This is a really interesting theory and one I can get behind.

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