Help and advice needed

[Ukhubby77]

My wife has changed a lot in the past year with menopause and I can she that it’s difficult and upsetting for her , however the past year she is mean and snappy at me , rude and offensive without realising (I think ) but now I’ve got to the stage where I don’t know if it’s the menopause or she really has had enough of me and wants to end the relationship,
any understanding and efforts seem to be a way of irritating her , I’m worried and don’t know what to do for the best

Have you asked her?

Yes I have tried talking but seem to say the wrong things , I think she’s just sees me as hopeless and unhelpful

What are you doing to help? Youve mentioned your efforts irritate her but what are they? If she is finding it difficult at the moment have you taken on the lion share of household tasks and responsibilities?

Perhaps you could find a time when she’s calm and you’re not feeling snapped at and ask her to talk to you about how she feels, how you make her feel, what you can do to be more helpful and supportive. Then listen to what she suggests and do it. Then, in a few months time, check with her again to see if your response to her/your behaviour is more helpful. It’s a tough time OP.

Hi mate , your wasting your time on here , it’s a nest of vipers and you will get no help whatsoever, these women will tear you apart , I asked for similar advice and was insulted and abused , they have no interest in helping you and your partner. I see the sarcastic comments you’ve received already , best of luck mate

Menopause is a turbulent time for women and it needs super and extra patience. Is she always angsty? Maybe you can talk to her about how she feels, what she needs, and how her behavior affects you when her emotions are neutral. Is she on medication?

This ^ @Ukhubby77 .
How old is your wife? Depending on age, she could still be perimenopausal.
There's a really good menopause doctor called Dr Naomi Potter, on instagram and youtube also, for help and advice.
Is your wife on HRT already?

Many thanks for all your helpful messages

If she's not on HRT, try suggesting it to her. Hopefully your and your wife will find an empathic and knowledgeable doctor.

I do as much as I can but I just seem to get in her way , any advice on things a can do or say is greatly appreciated

My wife is 53 years of age , thankyou for the information much appreciated