Am I wrong for being annoyed my partner of a year is talking about my menopause to people at work

[Bella7819]

Not sure if I’m just being moody but, I’ve been with my partner for a year and he told me today he spoke to his work colleagues, that I don’t know, about my menopause symptoms , telling them that I have hot flashes, which I haven’t had yet but many other symptoms and I’m on hrt and me having mood swings.
This has annoyed me, am I overreacting?

He's being disrespectful of your privacy and a total arse. Why is he doing it? Can he explain?

I didn’t tell him I was annoyed because I thought maybe I’m being over the top.
i know he will say it wasn’t meant in a bad way it was just a joke.
plus the fact he told them I am cold then have hot flashes when I’ve never even had one makes me feel like he was trying to be funny, but it’s not.

He's treating your menopause as a joke? A joke to share with his colleagues? That's even worse. What a prick.

You are not overreacting or being moody, and it's concerning that you immediately assume that you are.

Your medical information, especially anything exclusively female, is private and absolutely not for him to share with anyone, let alone to try to get a cheap laugh.

Thank you for taking the time to respond, I know deep down it’s not right but just wanted someone else’s opinion. X

I hope you get some more replies so that you get a range of opinions, but it can't ever be OK. May be a post in Relationships?

Obviously I don't know about the rest of your relationship, but I doubt this is his only undermining behaviour? Together only a year... I don't think I could get over this. It sounds so desperate and immature.

Utterly disrespectful. Would he like you 'joking' about his erectile dysfunction to your colleagues? What a rotten thing for him to do. I would trust and honour your feelings on this. 🤗

Well if your mood swings are being used as an excuse to treat him badly or a justfication for acting however you choose too then it is really up to him, same way women complain and joke to their collegues when men do things they dont like or agree with

are your moods affecting him?

I’m not moody with him in general and don’t feel like I am normally.
He hasn’t mentioned to me that I’m acting like that.