Help - very scary PMT

[Violetviolin]

i honestly don’t know what to do with myself. I can’t stop crying / raging / feeling super anxious. I’m on HRT but the last few cycles have been shit and today I feel like I’m losing my mind. This month there’s been a lot of stressful stuff going on which isn’t helping. Today I actually thought about taking my own life to stop these shitty hormonal feelings which I know is utter madness. Husband doesn’t really get it. Kids are just kids and can’t tell them what I am feeling. What on earth do I do?

Sounds like you need a medication review. What are you on and how long for?

I was exactly the same up until a few mths ago. I was on everol conti 50 patches and realised that after 3 years of being on them they weren't working anymore. I went to my Drs and she changed them to the 75 patch. A few days later my anger has reduced and I felt a little calmer. Don't get me wrong people still piss me off and changing my patch isn't a miracle cure but I do feel a lot different.
Hopefully you can get sorted as it's not nice feeling the way you do and can cause more added stress to your every day living x

Thank you! I’ve been taking Sandrena 1mg gel sachets daily and Utrogestan 200mg 12 days out of 28. Been on them for two years.

It may be that it needs to be adjusted or changed. My Dr said that sometimes our bodies get used to things and don't really carry on working for our bodies needs x

That's how I felt on utrogestan. Every month was awful. I just thought about killing myself all the time.

Now on mirena and 100mcg oestrogen patch and testogel and happy days.

Agree with others that you need a medication review @Violetviolin
Also wanted to say please talk to your GP or someone IRL about suicidal feelings. I felt like this before I got my HRT right. I'm now on Mirena coil and Estrodot 100 patches and it's working for me. I'm so scared they'll take me off it at some point. I couldn't cope with feeling the way I did before.
Good luck and remember this is something you'll get through. You just need the right help.

Talk to the GP immediately and report your suicidal ideation.

HRT may not be suitable for you. It made my
Mum seriously mentally ill too.

Look up PMDD, see if it resonates.

I went bonkers in perimenopause, some months I was like a feral animal.

My poor family.

I tried various things, now on 100 oestrogen patches twice a week and 2 mini pills a day. I still get low mood occasionally but not the crazies.

It's all so individual, and takes some patience to work through.

Good luck!

I am much better on mirena. It's a steady small dose. Rather than mood swings it's steadied out.

I sympathise it feels like someone's taken over your mind. I just used to count the days off till I felt like me again and just hold on in....

I prefer Mirena for progesterone as it’s a low constant dose. I certainly saw a difference in my rage when I had it put in, and that’s before I added oestrogen.

They recommend setraline for PMDD don't they. I wonder it's worth asking if it helps with menopause too?

Can I ask how long after you stopped utrogestan and had the Mirena put in did it take for your symptoms to improve?

I'm asking because I'm about to do the same.

Immediate.

It would take up to a week for the utrogestan to leave my system emotionally which left a few days a month of feeling normal and not crying on my husband! (and I was a bit naughty, I didn't take my final week of utro as I knew the mirena was going in and would deal with the remaining endometrial growth).

I was quite nervous when it went in and my GP promised to take it out immediately if there were similar emotional problems.

I didn't feel too emotional compared to the utro though the first month I still had a full normal period and my PMT was bad for a week, massive breasts, bloating in my stomach etc. And the fatigue was next level.

But then it passed and I've never had the same thing again.

I do still have periods but nowhere near as bad as before. I still get period cramps and PMT. But it is much milder. And some people don't have any periods or cramps or PMT so you might be lucky.
My Gynae told me that 20% of women still have a cycle with the Mirena and I'm one of those.

In conjunction with adding testosterone, I feel a hundred times better than when I was at the start of my HRT.

Good luck!

Oh wow that's much quicker than I expected! Thanks for sharing. I really hope it's the same for me. And that's really interesting about the 20% of women still having a cycle - I was wondering about that.

HRT was terrible for me. My moods are much better without it.

I might try the vaginal one as Much lower dose the other stuff sending me raging

Thank you everyone. Having horrible day - bad sleep then just didn’t want to get up today, shaking, very low mood, awful brain fog. 4 year old has fever so off sick. Eventually made it downstairs around 8am (DH) not up yet and two other kids in chaos.. Had a huge rage followed by huge crying jag. Sensitive middle child also ended up staying off 🤯 I’m on day one of my cycle today but feel like in about to come on (already bleeding since yesterday). Have just about managed to submit e-consult to dr. Hope they can understand my incoherent ramblings!