Everyone is irritating the shit out of me is this a symptom?

[Totallybannanas]

Especially dh! I can't even look at him without hating him right now. As a mother of two sons both older teens, I feel like I am running around after them all, especially my eldest who has put me through hell and back with drugs but is coming good now. Because of this I do pander to him more, because I don't even want to go back there. But I also feel like I have to pick up after dh, and also pick up after him because he forgets. I'm exhausted and tired of being a mum and wife. Everyone, in work also is irritating me. I feel like I'm doing all the work, because no one else does. I'm not sure that is the reality, but that's how I feel. I do feel like if I don't do it, it doesn't get done. To be honest, I just hate being around people right now and wish everyone would leave me alone.

Dh is always nagging the boys over tiny shit, like he needs to be in control and this alpha male but he literally used to ignore the big shit that I had to deal with when ds1 was taking drugs, dealing and just basically going off the rails. He nags them, over socks on the floor but he does it himself 🤔 The house is so much more relaxed and chilled when he's no here. I feel like I need to be alone, as I'm just overwhelmed by everything and everyone.

As the Churchill dog would say "Oh yes!"

No advice but I Totally empathise.
I keep fantasising about living in my own little flat where no one can annoy me or speak to me. Cat is allowed.

Yep. Ive said this before on here, i just Want to be like an old cat sitting at the wind and staring out.

Window ffs

If it’s not the menopause then I’m suffering from the same illness you are! I veer between feeling overwhelming annoyed by everyone and everything and feeling very detached and just wanting to sit and stare at things. DH has never had so many middle fingers stuck up at his back as he’s had in the last couple of years and I find myself really having to watch what I say to the idiots I’m surrounded by at work. Sympathies to you.

I have to bite my tongue at work but I know my face gives the game away. Despite my best efforts I watch my face in the little box on Teams like this 😐🙄😐😒

Thank you for the replies, honestly I'm knackered. Weekends just feel like constant work, no fun just work and then I'm back to work tomorrow. I have spent the entire weekend losing my shit with everyone and I just don't have the emotional energy or patience to deal with more shit and pretending to be nice at work.

Yup. I feel the same quite a lot. Only female in the house, older teens. I'm fed up cooking and shopping and all the other stuff. I love an evening when my dh is out. A lot of the time I just want him to fuck off and leave me alone.

Not sure if it's post Christmas and January blues, I am totally hating these dark mornings and evenings. Such a struggle to meet friends, even though it does help me alot.

Totally get this! It sounds awful doesn't it. Some days I wonder why are we even together, and then I feel awful that I feel this way.

Same! DH just annoys me constantly, I have a chronic illness on top of going through the menopause and I’m working FT I’m constantly shattered. DH knows I have sciatica and a bad back plus I have a big toe I just right now, didn’t stop him moaning about me walking too slow yesterday. My toe was bleeding. Love it when he’s not in, I can crank up the heating, put a scented candle on and chill.

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Do you both work?

Do you do his laundry, make dinner and basically be his housekeeper and maid?

It's not necessarily that menopause is the cause of the anger - more that you have less energy to repress your own reasonable rage

There are worse things than being divorced

Menopause can make you feel very meh (it was one of my main symptoms) BUT I suspect it just highlights how a lot of us feel at this age and stage of work, marriage and parenthood.

Apart from the DH bit (don’t have one) this is word for word how I feel too - definitely veer between those two distinct feelings as well. I empathise so much.

I've just locked myself in ds's bedroom (I don't even have a bedroom as we're stuck in a 2bed flat) as I just need 20 minutes away from the constant fucking questions. Thankfully no dp because I would have murdered one by now. 2dc, one with autism and a dd just turning 11 and a bag of raging hormones. I need a month alone on a deserted island.

Absolutely a symptom. You run out of oestrogen and you run out of fucks to give. Once you're through the other side of it, it's genuinely freeing. Stuff that used to bother you just doesn't anymore.

In the meantime, would you consider HRT? It stopped me from killing someone. I have never had a temper in my life; I have gone through life being a total pushover. Perimenopause arrived and I was a temperamental, anxious, raging madwoman. I nearly fought a total stranger in a car park. Three weeks of HRT and I felt human again.

All sounds very familiar. During a particular point of my HRT 'cycle' I fantasise about running away. The urge is incredibly strong! When it's at its worst, I can't tolerate being in the same room as my 16 yo DS because of the sound of his breathing. He is an absolutely lovely lad and I'm glad he is breathing (!) but the rage is so irrational. I hate feeling so out of control of my emotions 😕