Peri-menopause rage??

[Elizo]

Feeling terrible.

Have always suffered from some anxiety and depression but last 18 months or so I feel blind rage. I am trying to find ways to manage it, exercise helps. Am late 40s single parent. Yesterday I yelled at my poor DC because of something he did accidentally. I hate myself for behaving like that, it is so unfair. Has anyone found ways to stop behaving like this to DC (or other family?)

Feeling guilty

HRT sorted it for me.

I think it’s time.

Deep breathing and leaving the room when you feel like blowing up. It has saved me countless times. As have long walks. Look after yourself and keep calm.

Hrt was the only thing that sorted this for me. It's was like pmt magnified five fold.

This was also the main reason I went on HRT. It has sorted it for me.

HRT here too, helps massively. Also, trying to notice when my rage dial is moving up to a 3 or a 4 and doing what I can about it then, rather than waiting until I'm all the way up to 11 and blowing my top!

Strangely, I have found that testosterone (which I’d been prescribed for libido issues in addition to patches/Utrogestan) has been very helpful to reduce the rages I felt. I think I often felt frustrated and anxious in comparison to how clear minded I had been and the testosterone removes some of that mind fog.

I did have to have a blood test before using it and continue to have blood tests to ensure my levels don’t get too high.

HRT stopped it within a week for me. I suffered for far too long before I started it, I wish I'd just gone to the doctor and got my life back.

Hrt is the way forward. I took it because I lived with a mother who didn't and she never sorted out her rage. I did it for me but mainly for my children.

Can I ask what age you all started the HRT? I'm like this but early 40s so it's hard to know how long to wait

I started HRT in August, age 44. No benefits to waiting, but lots of benefits to starting early - massive reduction in likelihood of osteoporosis and heart disease for example

@Lottapianos how did you figure out what you needed? I'm also 44

I started HRT (patches initially, now patches and progesterone pills) a few months before I was 44.

I had rage for a good many months before along with sudden onset anxiety (it was like someone had flipped a switch and I got their anxiety, came out of nowhere) and brain fog. The anxiety and brain fog I attributed to general life stress but realised that possibly not everyone else on the planet was an idiot and instead it was me and peri menopause... I went to the GP with my list of symptoms and got HRT straight away.

But oh, that rage. It was genuinely as though every single other person was being a useless fool and it boiled me up. I'm a lot calmer now six months down the line.

I used the Balance app to log my symptoms for a few months. I was pretty sure it was perimenopause and was feeling pretty miserable by then. Spoke to nurse at my GP practice when I had my smear test - she was great and very informative, told me all about HRT options but couldn't actually prescribe. Spoke to GP who was useless and pretty much admitted that she wasn't following current guidelines 🤦🏻‍♂️

I ended up having to go private via Newson Health - doctor there was excellent, it felt like a proper conversation. She prescribed oestrogen and utrogestan but also discussed lifestyle factors like nutrition and exercise. I had a follow up appointment after 4 months where she increased my oestrogen dose. I know that private healthcare is not an option for everyone and no one should be forced into making that choice, but I would highly recommend Newson Health

Honestly the rage I felt was almii oh st a physical pain. I knew that I was being irrational or blowing things way out of proportion but knowing that didn't lessen the rage I was feeling.

Hrt sorted that out for me and pretty quickly too. Felt like myself again, as I've never been one to fly off the handle. So it was so very out of character for me.