Pms or perimenopause

[Mystical1981]

I've always been abit moody around the time of the month however I'm now 40 and it's got alot worse. Before I would feel abit moody a few days before and didn't have much cramping etc. I turned 40 this year but I would say for the past year I've noticed that a round a week before my period sometimes 2 weeks I become extremely moody I can feel the anger bubbling inside me and I honestly feel like I'm going crazy. I have been with my partner for 9 years and the past year every month he is up for the 'monthly review' as I call it where I start to think he's cheating on me or doing things behind my back and sometimes I even finish the relationship when I don't mean to. Everything he does annoys me in this week and I hardly want to see him..I also find that I've started to get cramps, pelvic pain and extreme tiredness and spotting for about 5 days before my period and I feel like I want to cry all the time and have really dark days hating myself. i recently had a smear test as I was worrying about the spotting and the nurse said she noticed I had a cervical erosion due to hormone changes. I have noticed that I can't regulate my body temperature when I'm cold I'm absolutely freezing and can't warm up but there are times when I'm out in the cold and I'm boiling hot (I feel cold to touch but I can feel my insides burning hot)
I was reading about perimenopause could this be the start or just bad pms? It's ruining my realtionship and destroying me

Also just to add once I come on I'm fine again and then feel bad that I've kicked off like a huge storm destroying everything

It sounds like perimenopause to me. Progesterone drops, your periods go weird before they stop, mine go t abysmally heavy, mood changes pelvic pain. Yep all that.

In my experience, bad pms kind of merged with peri. It's not like there was a time when I had pms and then a time when it switched from being pms to being peri. It was more like a ramping up of pms symptoms over time. Like you, I went from having a few bad days a month, to a week, to two weeks. Rage, irritability, weepiness, wanting to leave DP, sore swollen breasts, heavy periods and cramping etc. All symptoms I had in my 30s which just got progressively worse in my 40s. I went on HRT in my mid 40s and it's been great for me.

Yup 41, terrible pms, vaginal dryness and feel like my sweat smells way worse - just generally feel like a total minger 3 out of 4 weeks. When I'm ovulating I have so much discharge that it feels like I've wet myself 😬 (on the plus side super horny around this time and sex is great...)

In my next life I'm coming back as a man.

I just never realised rage was a peri menopause thing. I've been thinking PMDD. Sr wants to start HRT but I've been reluctant.

That should say Dr want me to start HRT

@xmaspomanon rage was one of my biggest symptoms before starting HRT! There are lots of mumsnetters on the menopause boards who seem to have had the same experience. Anxiety, insomnia, tearfulness, a bleak feeling of flatness/hopelessness, and wild RAGE! Usually directed at DP.

My peri symptoms started with mood changes. I ended up in a very dark place. It wasn't until I started having night sweats and palpitations that I realised I was in peri as my periods hadn't changed.