Perimenopause rage

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I'm mid-40s and the past 12m have noticed slight changes to my usually regular cycle. Typically, the cycles are shorter.

The few days leading up to my period the irritability and 'rage' is more than I've ever known. Is this part of peri?

The physical PMT is hit and miss; sometimes. Achy and crampy but other months nothing, however, the 'rage' is there every month. I've never felt like this before.

Anyone else been through this?

Yup. Saw GP who prescribed citralopram - horrible stuff. DH knows when my period is due because I’m irrationally angry, makes a joke of it (makes me feel better), as I can’t help it but it’s awful.

My periods are regular but shorter, so much bloating- a clothes size the week before and couple of days during. I try not to eat junk, drink lots of water and exercise- kick boxing and hiking not very good at all, but it is an outlet.

You can get HRT from Boots - just mentioning as I didn’t realise.

Thank you for replying.

Are you doing/taking anything to help?

I feel like a different person during those few days.

I can relate too.

It's so hard. I know I'm being irrational but I cannot stop it

HRT Helped me, I was a fucking psyco.

Wine?

My dc are calling me the rage monster. But the emotions are worse. Fucking away mood swings. Catastrophising. FML.

Oh yes! Shorter periods but regular and SO MUCH RAGE!! Along with awful brain fog.

HRT has made a huge difference, it's taken a while but my regime seems to be good now. I'm 50 now, have been taking it for 5 years and suffered for 2-3 years before that.

My anxiety and worrying is through the roof.
Some days I struggle to function and I seem to
move from one impending disaster to another-all feel very very real at the time.

Sorry for my ignorance-is it oestrogen changes that contributes to the 'rage'?
I'm struggling to understand why I feel like I do

I think it’s fluctuations rather than any one hormone. Think of the movement in a lava lamp and how the movement creates “turmoil” as opposed to sitting still and calm.

I think HRT is part of the picture to help for a lot of women but also for sustainability, take this opportunity to look at the rest of your life and whether you’re feeling a bit burnt out?

Hormones fluctuating makes the usual things that we unthinkingly do to make things work, much harder to do. So if you have an underlying condition or a very stressful job, if you have big caring responsibilities or if you are doing more than your reasonable share at home, or all of the above, and you feel a lot of rage or anxiety then be careful to look at those, as well as going to the GP. If you get very overwhelmed it can take your health several years to get back up.

i feel the rage! just here for solidarity

I feel it too, I know it’s unreasonable to get so worked up over things but I can’t help it. I’ve been on HRT for a few months but it’s not helped yet. I’ve been on Sertraline for about a year which has helped a bit.

I was peri between 55 and 57. Rage, catastrophising, few hot flushes, joint pain, muscle aches - unable to take HRT (yes, really - and my rage increased the more people told me that doctors knew nothing about HRT and everyone should be on it...) because of heart issues...

I'm 60 now, mostly all settled. Joints still twinge. Rage has given way to a relaxed "who really cares" attitude nowadays.

I actually kind of needed to hear this from someone!! @Crazykefir

my mum has recently lost the plot and so many people on here say, it’s who you really are embrace it etc But not when it’s actually sending you loopy, she accuses me of things that haven’t even happened !! Multiple times. She’s annoyed at me constantly about things that do not matter or is just me doing normal things. I can’t be on the receiving end of this much longer it’s sending me loopy too. I get most people get rage but for others it seems to be more extreme and more unhinged