Coping with toddlers and menopause

[Justmexxxx]

I have been thrown into menopause due to having my ovaries removed because of having the BRACA2 gene. I have a 17 year old a 3 year old and a 1 year old. It’s needless to say I am really struggling I find that when I am home on my own with the kids I am either crying or screaming and feel like I am on the verge of a mental break down. The posts I have read say about having HRT which I can’t have as I have had breast cancer twice or they say to explain to ur children why ur feeling so angry and upset all the time which is fine for my 17 year old but not so much the 1 and 3 year old.
i feel like i am failing as a mother and could really use some advise or any ideas on how i can get through such a hard time because right now I don’t see any light at the end of my tunnel 😢

I understand a little of how you are feeling. Mu kids are 17, 14 and 4 and we are 43 (me) and 48 (hubby).
I'm peri and struggling with that as it is - then starting a new teaching job from September and also starting a Masters at uni at the same time!!
My anxiety and insomnia are so bad - has been for years - and this is in summer hols so it's only going to get worse!
I promise you that you are not a bad mum ♥️

That sounds awful and it’s such a brutal contrast without the gradual peri stage that most go through. Can you go back to your doctor to see if there is anything that could work for you?