My got up and go has got up and gone.

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Just that really. I feel like I've arrived at a fortunate yet strange space in life. Have sort of entered early retirement (early 50's) and still have relatively young children - not at an age where I can just head off in a campervan I have often thought of purchasing for days at a time.

I have interests which I do find engaging but most require a dose of creativity and I feel like my brain has somewhat flatlined.

I'm wearing a patch and I find that this takes the edge of menopause symptoms such as anxiety (always been an issue for me anyway) and hot flushes but I still have a degree of brain fog.

I've considered consulting a life coach regarding gaining more of an insight into possible direction but I honestly feel like my got up and go has got up and left. The answers are within us. But do I have the energy to follow anything through I ask myself.

Anyone find themselves feeling a bit flat lined but unsure about what to do next?

Yep

Think yourself lucky, it could have got up, had a look around and gone back to sleep thinking "What's the bloodly point...'

Yep This made me chuckle ssd

I've just read another thread about hating work. I considered retraining or something or other. Even voluntary work. But can I currently make the commitment? Nope.

Think yourself lucky, it could have got up, had a look around and gone back to sleep thinking "What's the bloodly point...'

Absolutely. I think there is an element of this. Also limited energy. I've always been a people pleaser and put others first. It's a bit of a change around.

I also know how valuable life is and want to make the most of 'it'...whatever that looks like.

Fortunate not to have to work currently but I've had some pretty demoralising jobs in the past.

I know exactly what you mean.
I feel permanently exhausted, cannot sleep properly, my body has aches and pains all over and my memory has left the building.
I have to work but couldn't care less about my current job, just go through the motions.
I often think about looking for something else but I seriously doubt my ability to learn and retain loads of new information. I have a degree and a masters but the memory of a goldfish now.
Still have teenager and an older son at home, along with increasingly dependant parents.
I feel it's my duty to do stuff for the younger daughter but do fantasize about living alone in a cottage by the sea; just me , a couple of beautiful cats , a wood burning stove and a fridge full of ready meals for one and wine.

but do fantasize about living alone in a cottage by the sea; just me , a couple of beautiful cats , a wood burning stove and a fridge full of ready meals for one and wine.

Sounds wonderful.

I can dream!

You're describing me except.i have to work unfortunately. And my new.role and team are dreadful. But I can't leave. Not yet anyway.

Have you tried adding testosterone to your HRT? I don't know why I'm asking as I've struggled to get it myself. But yes I relate to your complaints, it feels as if my gearstick is broken, if you know what I mean. Can't seem to motivate myself at all.

Alnightingale

Yes, did try testosterone for a while...didn't seem to make much difference though unfortunately. Could be to do with absorption I suppose as the patches are absorbing particularly well (awaiting consultation at the menopause clinic).

All of this 100% !!

Oh and I have the shite of cancer to add to the mix. So, fuck all hormones, fuck all HRT, cancer in my lung and the fuck a pause to deal with!! Also have to work. I too couldn't give a shit. I go through the motions and hope I can quit soon ( will probably get fired as the memory of half a goldfish!)

Enigma That sounds really, really tough. Sorry to hear this.

It is tough, I won't lie.

You might just need a rest, OP. If you don't need to work, maybe that's OK? Look after yourself for a year or so, practise radical self-care, read some books about the mid-life transition and then review?

I had this. Dh encouraged gp. Gp said hmmm your hrt is a pretty light dose, suggest upping it. I upped it 25 to 50 and bingo, my get up and go came home and got me up again.

Do you mean your husband encouraged you to go to the GP, or that he went with you and the GP took you more seriously?!

can I have more information on your patch, please?
I am a bit behind these things

I listen to a lot of podcasts on menopause and about how it rewires the brain. I do wonder if post menopause the 'get up and go' comes back...hopefully with a vengeance...but the peri menopause time during the rewiring is a moment of pause and...Just don't give a sh*t.

You might just need a rest, OP. If you don't need to work, maybe that's OK? Look after yourself for a year or so, practise radical self-care, read some books about the mid-life transition and then review?

I am taking this approach (or trying to). HRT might possibly need upping, I don't know but I certainly think resting back is helping lots. In some ways, I have never felt better oddly. I don't put up with as much rubbish, less tolerant of people to whom I'm not a priority that kind of thing.