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Friendship problems in peri

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AnnieCookWriter · 01/07/2024 10:03

I'm interested to know whether anyone else is finding it hard to maintain freindships with other women in peri, when you are there yourself. I've had a couple of long-standing friendships that are now really sticky and I think it's possibly because we are all experiencing different hormonal quirks and bangs that affect our moods. I'm less tolerant, and so are they, and even though we know its a 'thing,' that may or may not pass, tempers are fraying over the silliest things that would never have bothered us before, and I wonder if we are going to be the same people at the end of the process, or whether these relationships will be causualties of it. Is anyone else going through this? It's horrrible, feeling like I'm in a minefield every time I say or do, or don't say or don't do something that annoys one of them. I don't walk well on eggshells and I feel like things are out of my control.

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whattodoforthebest2 · 01/07/2024 16:16

AnnieCookWriter · 01/07/2024 14:43

Yes, I think the wavelengths are changing. One friend I can only actually take in small doses, becasue she is very full-on, and I find that now I am questioning whether its appropriate to keep going because she is really annoying me. I think its MY drama with that, and not hers, but I'm no longer sure. I think its a shame to let friendships go, but if they no longer feel good, I guess it's time. I'm just not sure whether this is a phase, or whether our 'evolution' will leave us all permanently in a different place than where we were before, and unable to get back on track. I do worry about throwing the baby out with the bath water...

Goodness, this really resonates with me too. Another friend I used to go out with to see live bands and we always had a good time. But over the past couple of years I've realised that we couldn't be more different people. She is becoming more and more involved in her religion (JW) which I have no interest in and the last time I saw her, her parting shot was "bitch", this was with me sat in the hairdresser's having my hair cut. I'd said nothing offensive, I think she thought she was being funny - I just don't have time for any of it any more.

TakeOnFlea · 01/07/2024 17:57

"Female friendships during menopause (particularly women who share similar experiences) create a deep sense of empathy. It allows women to feel seen and heard and alleviates the sense of isolation that sometimes accompanies menopause."

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EmpressaurusDeiGatti · 01/07/2024 19:34

TakeOnFlea · 01/07/2024 17:57

"Female friendships during menopause (particularly women who share similar experiences) create a deep sense of empathy. It allows women to feel seen and heard and alleviates the sense of isolation that sometimes accompanies menopause."

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