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Shocked and sad at early menopause

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TakeABreath2023 · 27/06/2024 22:48

Hi - I’m 41. I suffer from two autoimmune conditions - Addisons’s (which has wiped out adrenal function) and Hashimoto’s (wiping out thyroid) meaning I have been on steroid and thyroxine replacement since 33. As a result I have very regular endocrine screening. My endocrinologist has picked up a steady march upwards in my FSH over the last 6 months from c.4 in January until today on Day 2 at 9.3 with my oestradiol <100. I know this all means I am rapidly approaching menopause. It’s all happened faster than expected. I have suffered with some breast tenderness and PMS moods but my cycles have been pretty regular between 25-28 days since I finished breastfeeding my last child four years ago. I haven’t had hot flushes. I honestly wouldn’t have felt I needed to go to the doctor about perimenopause or menopause if I wasn’t having the reality spelled out to me in blood tests. I have been really stressed since starting a new job in January. I wonder if this tipped things over the edge. I feel really tearful about it all - it’s all an earlier than expected and seems to be moving so suddenly. I feel like in a few months I have gone from being still young and vaguely attractive to suddenly an unattractive barren husk and past my useful purpose. I know there are far worse things to get but also the prospect of another condition to manage just seems so overwhelming and a little unfair. No other member of my mother’s family or my sisters have had an early menopause. Just looking for some handholding, and like I can handle this and maybe feel better. We have a strong history of osteoporosis and so I’m obviously worried about that. I have a history of eating disorders so really worried about what HRT
will do to my weight. Not sure if I’m
making any sense.

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TakeABreath2023 · 28/06/2024 17:31

Thanks very much to Jingling and muddyford. I need the pep talk like I said.
I’m just struggling with definition. Does the rising FSH make you menopausal if so, 41 is quite a long way behind 45 - it’s just a bit of a shock. Or, with rising FSH would it be feasible still to carry on having periods even if increasingly erratic for another two years or so?
Partly I’m struggling with definition - peri versus final menopause, and how long it all takes….

And I’m probably definitely overthinking it. As above explanation suggests - I’ve had a bit of health drama in my life and the anxiety I get around seeing my endocrinologist and the nurses for blood tests and the results is crippling. Maybe I should be focussing on dealing with that….

thanks for your patience.

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