Can the menopause make you feel like you are dying?

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Just that really?

How quickly did that feeling come on? If it's sudden onset, you need to get checked over today.

No it's not sudden , I'm 49 and have had all types of symptoms for years but the headaches are so bad now . No doctors seem to know what's wrong or why I have so much pain.

I just feel like I'm slowly dying .. outwardly I look well and probably great for my age but I'm a masker and to me showing how unwell you feel is a weakness so I think this doesn't help with my case tbh .. 🤦‍♀️

God I'm wondering this myself I'm 44. Pretty sure I'm in peri and I just feel so drained. It's like my innards and outers are really bloated / inflamed but with joint pain too. Headaches, insomnia, exhaustion. Weirdly I look great, I've dropped a few kilos and the bloating seems to be plumping up my skin nicely.

I was driving to work thinking that this must be what slowly dying feels like. Then I walk in and someone asks how I am and I slap on a smile and a chirpy great how are you?

I do have a history of becoming hospitalised for things like tonsilitis though as don't look ill enough for treatment until I'm really very ill and needed I.V. antibiotics.

HRT helped me tremendously op. The migraines were almost daily. I was so low in my mood, had aches and pains everywhere and had lost my motivation for anything. It took me a while to find the right dose but now the migraines and all the other symptoms are much more manageable

I agree HRT has helped me too, I was experiencing lots of menopause symptoms, headaches, joint pain along with the normal symptoms. Once I got a HRT patch that suited me, all has been 95% better.

Good luck on getting it sorted.

I felt so tired, anxious, no energy, joint pains, headaches, literally dragged myself through the day, everyday, horrendous periods where I couldn't leave house for more than an hour, local doctors didn't help, I sat on the edge of the bed one day sobbing saying I couldn't go on, I wanted it to end so bad. I had to go private to get hrt, within two-weeks of taking it I started to feel human, after two months normal, now 20 months on, I feel better at 53 than I did my whole 40's! I still am private for it, it costs, but as my husband says he can sleep without one eye open now haha.

It's madness Isn't it . Mt brain fog makes me think I must have a brain tumour . I'm so scared and yet I've had tonnes of blood tests. And apparently I'm fine !

I literally said the same thing to my partner a few weeks ago. I've been to GP and got HRT and now I'm trying to pluck up the courage to start it. However seeing the comments here I might actually give it a go!

Have you had a discussion with your GP around hrt at all? Have a look at the Balance app for some useful advice and a symptom checker that you could use to show your Dr.

I’m convinced I am dying. Muscle pain and stiffness, twitching, arms falling asleep at night, swollen ankles, difficulty concentrating, forgetful, sometimes bad tempered or overly emotional, and I keep getting thrush. I tell DH I want a divorce at least once a month, usually the week before my ridiculously heavy period.

Also I keep having panic attacks, largely because I’m convinced I’ve got some degenerative disease which is causing these issues and I’m going to die.

I fully expect to wake-up one day in a hospital bed with about thirty doctors around me. To discover I have some weird rare condition that only 2 other people in the world have and it renders people so ill they usually end up bed ridden. The doctors all find it unbelievable that I've been working, parenting, exercising all this time. Then they all give me a round of applause.

Are you me? Honestly I’m convinced that I have some rare condition which the doctors are failing to identify. Eventually they’ll diagnose it and will be absolutely shocked that I’m still standing upright, never mind parenting and working.

@Miriad 😂 I feel like laughing and crying at the same time. It's nice to have company but still feels hopeless

It's not just me then .. I just feel like I'm slowly dying but I don't have the night sweats .
I have anxiety after being the boldest outgoing extrovert when I was younger to now not overly wanting to socialise .
I tried HRT but didn't feel any different and can't upp the dose as I have family history of breast cancer

Part of me doesn't care though because I'm only existing now anyways 🤷‍♀️

@Abitorangelooking

This is me 100%

Even when things are horrendous I say I'm fine 🙄🤦‍♀️

I did actually cry at the doctors which is unheard of for me because I just feel like I'm done !

I have zero history of depression so it's not that I'm just tired of waking up daily zero excitement and in pain 😞

Well, we’re all slowly dying, of course. Why are you blaming menopause for your feelings? I think you need counselling.

I'm 53 and definitely felt like I found myself again when I started HRT. I don't think I really realised how bad I felt, both emotionally and physically. Brain fog, paranoia, aches and pains, night sweats, lack of sleep, flooding... Apparently, oestrogen affects at least 5 neurotransmitters, so the lack of or fluctuating levels really messes with your brain.

@sorrynotathome

Didn't menopause make you lose your sense of humour and empathy 🤦‍♀️

I do not need counselling thank you

I realise we are all slowly dying thanks but would like to feel better before I actually get there !