Is this menopause stuff? So done with everything

[moggo]

I'm having a really bad day. I feel like walking out of the house and just disappearing for good. I've felt ill all day and just so overwhelmed with every day life. Even the small things I can't manage. I have one dc who is married and doesn't live locally and doesn't seem interested in staying in touch. It hurts so much. My youngest dc is at uni and is autistic. We are very close but I think she wants to be a bit more independent and so doesn't want to speak to me as often which I accept but inside it hurts so much. I have major health anxiety and suffer from depression. I won't take HRT because the leaflet said it could make your mental health worse and I'm terrified of that. I want to take it but I'm so scared. I know I sound pathetic and annoying and should take steps to look after myself better but I'm so low. Does anyone have any advice or just a handhold. Thank you so much.

Hi @moggo and sorry you are feeling like this.

If you are aged late 40s-early 50s yes wanting to walk out and let every other effing effbot in your life eff off is pretty normal and related to menopause.

Please don't discount HRT out of hand. It may not resolve what you're feeling. But trying it may allow your to work out what's related to menopause and what's not.

Best wishes whatever you decide to do.

Thanks so much @liz4change. I'm late 50s but only finished my periods a year and a half ago. I have made a decision to give the HRT a try on the basis that I can't feel much worse! I'm still feeling horrible this morning so will go out for a walk to see if that helps.

Oh op so sorry you feel like this . Please see your gp asap and tell them how you feel. Whether it's hrt or other meds like anti depressants you sound like you need some help and support.

You do not sound pathetic at all. Good luck.