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BooseysMom · 15/04/2024 00:32

I don't know where to begin..I will try and keep it short. I'm 52 and when symptoms got too much I went on gel and Utrogesten. This regime did nothing so I tried patches and again nothing. I stuck with it for over a year.
I have bad depression, anxiety, ache all over and have sudden debilitating episodes of feeling sick and dizzy. I don't really get much sweating or hot flushes. I have a young DS and am worried about the effect on him with my up and down moods. I have no one to lean on or talk to.
Should I try antidepressants? Also if you are on the other side of the menopause, how long did it take? My DM who died years ago, said it takes 10 years! I can't do it if this is how long it takes. I will bail out of this shit life...
Thank you.

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BooseysMom · 11/05/2024 15:07

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 03/05/2024 07:21

I found been on 2 weeks on/ 2 weeks off hrt made me feel awful as a higher dose of progestrone which I am sensitive to and was bleeding so much and could not leave the house for 2 days when got my period. Also the pmt was just awful. Now on continuous feel so much better as hormones more balanced as same dose daily and take utrogestrone vaginally so less side effects. But I was on hrt for over a year and was able to change from 2 weeks on/off to continuous. See your doctor again and before you go write the list of things that are the worst, for me I was like you and it was the emotional, no get up and go, crying, just feeling crap and so low, sometimes you need hrt and antidepressants as it does help and if it gets you through this tough time it is better than feeling crap. Ask for help and pm me any time if you need to. Peri-menopause is hard but once you find hrt that suits you it gets easier, if it does not do anything go back and ask for something else as it can take a few tweaks to get it right. I think the hard thing is we do not expect peri meno to hit us all of a sudden and not prepared and feel we have to put up with it but you don't. It will get easier I promise as felt like giving up and been where you are but believe me you will get through it and it is not perfect as it does change us, think menopause worse for women who had bad pmt/pmdd. Stay strong and you will come out the other side but get the help you need.

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants

Thank you ..this gives me hope. Just giving in isn't really an option. I will just have to go back to the gp

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IncognitoMam · 11/05/2024 17:20

@BooseysMom yes definitely go back to the GP.
I cancelled my appointment. I feel a bit better and am sleeping better. Just done a pretty strenuous 5 ish miles walk. Been a gorgeous day. I'm much better when I do lots of walking.

Interestingly I've been taking cordyceps capsules. Not sure if that's why?

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 12/05/2024 03:56

How are you getting on op? Did you manage to see doctor at all. Hope you are doing ok and to all the other people on here as it is not easy at times as hormones all over the place especially before get period mine was always bad but in peri-menopause it got very bad and mood got very low. When you first start the estrogen part it takes a while to settle as I had awful pains sides of my breasts when started but stuck with it as body getting used to hormones. Also take vit d and a good multi vitamin with iron, B12 etc as just found out my B12 very low and iron so that could explain my extreme tiredness. Hope you ok xx

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BooseysMom · 14/05/2024 18:55

IncognitoMam · 11/05/2024 17:20

@BooseysMom yes definitely go back to the GP.
I cancelled my appointment. I feel a bit better and am sleeping better. Just done a pretty strenuous 5 ish miles walk. Been a gorgeous day. I'm much better when I do lots of walking.

Interestingly I've been taking cordyceps capsules. Not sure if that's why?

IncognitoMam
Thanks. Glad you're feeling better. Exercise certainly helps. But today I ached so much I could barely move!
I've never heard of those capsules. If they're working for you, I need to try them!

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BooseysMom · 14/05/2024 19:00

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 12/05/2024 03:56

How are you getting on op? Did you manage to see doctor at all. Hope you are doing ok and to all the other people on here as it is not easy at times as hormones all over the place especially before get period mine was always bad but in peri-menopause it got very bad and mood got very low. When you first start the estrogen part it takes a while to settle as I had awful pains sides of my breasts when started but stuck with it as body getting used to hormones. Also take vit d and a good multi vitamin with iron, B12 etc as just found out my B12 very low and iron so that could explain my extreme tiredness. Hope you ok xx

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants
Thank you for your kind words. Yes I don't feel so awful now thanks. I haven't seen the doctor yet. I had a very heavy painful period and it was 2 weeks early so had no idea it was coming.
I get those breast pains too. I'm not even taking hrt atm!
I take those multi vits & iron but not sure how effective they are as they are cheap ones.

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IncognitoMam · 14/05/2024 21:45

I hope you find something to help @BooseysMom ?
There's a few different mushroom capsules. Apparently Reishi ones are good too? Worth reading up on.

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BooseysMom · 16/05/2024 16:28

IncognitoMam · 14/05/2024 21:45

I hope you find something to help @BooseysMom ?
There's a few different mushroom capsules. Apparently Reishi ones are good too? Worth reading up on.

Thank you 😊 I hadn't thought of those

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