I'm gaslighting myself! Does anyone else??!

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So, 49 years old. Married with children three at home. Youngest 14.

Husband is the most selfish man ever. Kids are lazy and don't get me started on my manipulative mother.

But how could they all have changed? It's not them, it's me. It has to be. I've allowed them
To be like this unchecked for so long. It's my fault so I have no business being annoyed with them.

I spend an embarrassing amount of time everyday arguing this in my head.

Does anyone else do this or should I seek therapy immediately????

It's not just you. I can't cope with most people to be honest.

They haven't changed at all. They have always been like this, but you have just started to notice and are no longer willing to tolerate their nonsense. Time for you to give them a few "ground rules".

This x 100000000000

So now you can see what they are all like - you need to decide what you are going to do about it

Sounds like you need to stop having conversations in your head and start having them with the family!
If you have been abit of a doormat and let them get away with it chances are they wont even realiese that there is a problem...unless you tell them.

Isn't this the best bit though as now you can confront them about their behaviour because the veil has been lifted. Yes you may be hormonal, but they need to buck up their ideas.

I've been talking myself out of the fact I'm peri for over a year now and finally given in and asked for a referral to the Women's Clinic this week. I thought you were going to say gaslighting oneself about that!

I am nearly 45 and everything I have put up with for years is just not ok anymore. I have really had it out with my husband and he is doing loads more than he ever has before. Just because you have put up with for years doesn't mean you have to put up with it now. Get them told!! My husband says I am like living with a man now because I put up with zero shit! Pa ha ha

I'm exactly the same. I've tried bringing it up. DH said he'd pay for a cleaner which I didn't particularly want.

So now I have to manage the cleaner, and spend a night a week tidying the house before the cleaner comes. Ffs.

DC are doing exams so I wont ask them to do any more than they do.

I have endless circulating arguments in my head about how resentful I feel all the time.

I want to live on my own tbh. But obviously I won't abandon my family!

Hi op I havent the same tolerance levels now lol. 51. I think at this age you take no crap off people! Op I find my energy not same dealing with crap now.