53, on HRT and never happy.

[DustyLee123]

I think my marriage problems are a lot to do with it, but if it is hormonal then I’d really like to like my DH again. If I could find my happiness again, life would be better with him.
Im on HRT, what else can I do to get happy?

Couples counselling to find the source of your unhappiness in the relationship? Or maybe even individual counselling first to see if it’s something else?

Do things you enjoy.

Do things that give you a sense of meaning and accomplishment.

Have new experiences. Learn new things/ skills.

Spend time with people you like and who like you.

I have no idea if getting happy will affect how you feel about your H. There may be good reason why you don’t like him.

I do things that I enjoy. Gym, dog walking, I enjoy my job mostly, but I just don’t feel happy inside. I miss being one half of a couple, being in love.

Same yet almost 58.
Some of it is empty nest and a real lack of sex drive.
Erectile dysfunction on his.
Hormones have a lot to answer for.🤣🤣

Yes, I have no sex drive whatsoever. But I’ve wondered if I would with someone else.
He did nothing about his ED and that caused great resentment in me.

Not unusual for women to find they do have a sex drive after all with a new guy!

It sounds like it is your relationship making you unhappy. Rather than your unhappiness causing you to go off your relationship.

Maybe your relationship has run its course.

This sounds like a bit more than hormonal issues, but regarding lack of sex drive some women get this with menopause. You can ask your doctor for testosterone, some of them are a bit wary about prescribing so you may need to ask to be referred to a menopause clinic via NHS.

Sorry I’ve just re read your posts, this is not going to help if you’re no longer having sex with your husband, if this was a joint decision that would be different. This is very selfish of him imo. I get it’s embarrassing for men but so easy to get help , they don’t even have to see a doctor just go to a pharmacy. It’s really sad. Couples counselling would be a good idea if you could get him to go. If not find a counsellor and go yourself. Hope things get better for you.

Volunteering
Work and xareer move
Trips away alone Volunteering
Charity work
Mentoring
Community work

The list is endless

Find your fulfillment outside the home

The man - leave him at home bored you ho create yourbest self

I'm 53 I did this !