Is this anger normal ?

[sunandfun1]

Hi all, I'm 57 and no periods for about 5 years. I have managed the physical symptoms well with diet and exercise and hrt so feel fine physically.
Mentally I feel very different though and in some ways empowered by the fact I don't seem to give a shit anymore and I will not tolerate half the crap I used to. However I also feel very angry a lot of the time and have feelings of being happier on my own. My husband irritates me and I'm pissed off when he is here. We have always had a traditional marriage where I stayed at home and raised our 3 children and he worked. Now I feel resentful doing the usual stuff like cooking, cleaning shopping etc. I want my own space and time to do my own thing, even walking our dog. I adore my adult children and they still bring me joy but besides being with them I prefer my own company.
Is this normal and will it pass?

What does he do specifically? Does he goad and pick on you you if things aren't to his satisfaction? My Husband is a control freak and sometimes makes me feel incompetent. He works for himself so it comes with the territory. I do feel angry but this is usually at work with idiot colleagues who are complete suck ups to the boss.
What don't you tolerate anymore that you used to?

@sunandfun1

It sounds like a marriage issue not a menopause one.

Your role as 'mum' isn't so hands on now and you're seeing what is left between you and your H.

Have you thought of some counselling for yourself to consider your options? Staying with him is one- leaving is another - and would maybe be fairer to him if you really aren't happy in his company any more.

I used to clean my house through every week, now I can’t be bothered, mostly because DH doesn’t do anywhere near his share. Even when he cooks the evening meal I have to go round after he’s cleared up, as he doesn’t bother to do things like moving the toaster to wipe under, or rinse the sink. Then there’s often a red ring stain on my white surface where he’s left his daily red wine glass. If I said anything I’d get the look that I’m nagging.
I have a constant 24 hour struggle going in inside my head, whether to stay or go, and it’s been going on for years. I’m financially and socially better off staying, but I frequently wish he’d piss off.

You've stayed not because he was the man you loved but for money, the DC, because it was never bad enough to drive you away. It's pretty clear there's not much of a marriage left but only you can make your mind up about what happens next

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@sunandfun1 needs to come back and at least reply!! What's the point in putting a post up if you don't respond. Just saying!