ANGER! 😤

[LabradorButler]

(NC, regular poster)

Anyone else struggling with this? It's one of the most unsettling symptoms of menopause for me. I've always been even-tempered: DH is really the only adult I've ever had a big row with, and then only occasionally in a 20+ year marriage. Also, I work in a customer-facing role, so I try to always be considerate of other people who do, even when the service is crap. I might get cross with the company, but I don't get cross with the individual.

But, with the menopause) I find myself getting irrationally angry over trivial things, and the worst thing is that it is so unpredictable. I can be totally chill over major cock-ups, but a really minor thing will set me off, and I'll find myself furious with some poor call centre handler or similar. I don't mean that I get abusive, but i just get really cross, in a way that doesn't feel like the real me. Hate that feeling - I feel so out of control.

Anyone else found a way of dealing with this? I'm already on HRT and, most of the time, my menopause symptoms are well-controlled, so I think the dose is fine.

Small dose of Sertraline works wonders!

Thanks, but I don't want to take medication for a symptom that only happens occasionally. Anyone had success with non-medication options?

Following please

If you want the non medication route, then really you'd need to over haul your diet. There's a lot of information out there, but essentially I think it's around more protein and then foods with phytoestrogens.

I was floored by the emotional roller coaster, and yes the anger is incredible and horrible when it's so out of your control.

Thank you. I'm already taking flaxseed, drinking miso soup, and eating so many carrots, I'm now half-rabbit. GOK what I'd be like if I wasn't!

Thank you for sharing your experience - it's good to know that I'm not alone in this. I was hoping I was getting towards the end of the menopause roller coaster, but this anger thing doesn't seem to be improving. I got really cross with someone who was mildly rude earlier, whereas normally I would have just let it pass or, at worse, been mildly sarcastic back. I want old me back!

The only thing that's worked for me is Fluoextine. I'm on HRT as well but for me that has only helped with the physical symptoms. I know you don't want to go down the AD route so hopefully you find something that works for you. I know how you're feeling though, it's awful 😞

I started taking 5htp supplements
After a couple of weeks my children started commenting on how much better my mood was. I took them for a few months then stopped and been OK since then.

Idk but I'm just raging atm! I'm even fed up with myself.

I would consider upping your HRT dose. Irrational anger was also the symptom for me that didn't ease off when I first started HRT, but it did when I upped the dose! I've just had to reduce it down again for certain reasons, and I've already noticed that I'm losing my rag much quicker