Can't be arsed

[LuciferRising]

46 and suspect peri. Night sweats. Periods all over the place. Joint aches. Mood swings.

But has anyone experienced simply not being arsed. I'm at a point in my career where I should be pushing myself. I'm in a male dominated sector and I see them really being passionate and involved. But I just don't care about it anymore. Can't be bothered with objectives, meetings etc. I've lost it.

Oh yes. To all of the above. HRT helped the physical and emotional symptoms barring the joint pains, however did bugger all for the CBA. Have a serious case of this in a career which is not compatible with the CBA-ness. No advice. Just solidarity.

I've never been massively arsed with progressing my career, but can get seriously involved in sports and hobbies.

I used to do quite a competitive sport and trained nearly every day. I was constantly in pain from minor niggles or DOMS but pushed through becasue I wanted to win. I've now stopped doing that sport and can't face the thought of pushing myself that hard in another one. Maybe it's just a level of maturity where I want to do sports for enjoyment but am not prepared to kill myself over being the best.

Perhaps you've come to realise that putting lots of energy into a career is not what you want anymore?

HRT helped me a lot with general mood and where before I'd look at a pile of washing up and think I cba, now I would just get on and do it without much thought.

Yep definitely recognize this. Can you coast??

Yes the rose tinted glasses come off around this time. For me it was hard to pinpoint if it was life experiences or hormonal.
I went with life experience/maturity and didn’t think hormonal treatment was right for my experience.
how’s a pill to help teens behavior, workplace pressures, cost of living etc, when I had zero physical or mental effects from peri or meno.

I could. I am generally high performer but we always get 'constructive feedback'. I'm thinking I can't be bothered to act on constructive feedback which would probably pull me into achieved. But does it matter ? It's only a small bonus difference. I can't be bothered to chase it anymore. And they all annoy me even if they are very nice.

I have lots of stuff I enjoy outside of work where I am enthusiastic. I've been writing a book for several years. I don't want to do anymore work certifications. I want to do writing instead. But it won't pay the salary I am on.

I think the other thing is, somedays I am on fire at work and think I can do it all, then the next day I can't be arsed. My enthusiasm is like a sine wave.

That's getting older for you. It shows what is important and what is not. I sacked off my high pressure London job and moved to Somerset and life is much slower now. I'm writing this from the sofa and may not get up even yet.