Any tips on motivation to address this exhaustion pls

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Bit of background:
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Work full time in professional job, often late hours and super stressful
DH works in stressful job very long hours too
Often 8pm before we can even think about cooking and eating together
4 dc ... 3 independent but still needing me (Uni)
Youngest dd aged 13 with autism but we're all coping better this last year.
We only got married in August so that was stressful sadly only because of the stress caused by taking time off work !
No financial worries
Looking for new house and just had offer accepted on dream house
First grandchild just born
So .... everything is lovely amd I feel grateful and blessed every day, but I'm so so so exhausted 😴
I sleep well for 7 hours . Head hits the pillow amd I'm gone.
Eat a healthy diet and drink possibly not enough water and too much wine in the evening .
Do no exercise and live in a beautiful spot where I can walk anywhere it's stunning but during the day I'm meeting work deadline and after work it's the usual cooking and household stuff
All I want to do is go to sleep
I look at fancy fitness apps knowing perfectly well I don't need them but they don't motivate me anyway
Pay membership at the local spa pool amd can't face going out it's always dark when I've finished
Same for Pilates
I'm on HRT amd take vitamin D
No Heath conditions except high blood pressure but on medication
I know i need to get up and move more and get outside but I cannot tell you how tired I am ! I could literally fall asleep standing at my desk.
It's a vicious circle I guess really
The exercise if I make myself do it might be the only thing that works to motivate me ?
Is this menopause ?
I've not suffered with any other symptoms
Have bought some menopause vitamins and take a collagen supplement
Any other tips on managing exhaustion even if just to be able to go for a walk or something would be great x

I could have gone for a walk instead of writing this I know but just want to sleep !

You sound really stressed.

I'm only stating the obvious but you sound as if you are running the risk of burn out.

Do you have to keep up that level of work and the stress of it? Can you afford to work less or change your job?

and drink possibly not enough water and too much wine in the evening .

How much are you drinking each week (units)?

Exercise- it will make you feel better if you can do it.

No exercise, possibly to much alcohol and eating late are the culprits. You already have high BP so listen to your body. There are alarm bells ringing.

Maybe try to make some changes.

There’s a lot in your post (and your life) and no wonder you are tired. So to some extent I’m afraid you are doing too much. But if I was going to suggest one change it would be drink more water. Just have a glass by you at your desk and in the evening. Cut out the wine except for a couple of days a week. Doing this really helped my energy levels. I hope it works for you and that you can then consider incorporating some exercise in your life.

Cut the wine.

Walk a bit, when you can - recommend reading 52 ways to walk by Annabel Streets - and try to absorb some into your working day - walking meetings/ calls if you can.
Bin the gym, pilates etc if you never go.

You will start to immediately feel more energised, and when you doo, add in a little strength training when you can, just 10 mins a day.

Get a cleaner.

Also, consider a walking desk.

No exercise, possibly to much alcohol and eating late are the culprits. You already have high BP so listen to your body. There are alarm bells ringing

I agree. Can you knock the booze on the head and eat healthily. You'll feel better almost immediately.

Exercise. Weirdly, exercising is actually energizing. Start with Yoga with Kassandra and a plank (Bowflex 3-minute plank) in the evenings, and something more energetic - including weights! - at the weekend. Look at Growingannanas and Caroline Girvan.

Get your iron and b12 levels checked or take a supplement for a few months to see if you feel any different.

Swap the wine and any excess caffeine for water or caffeine free herbal teas and ditch as much sugar/ UPF as possible. Sugar crashes are what makes me feel exhausted.

Get a cleaner/ delegate some of the cooking (or batch cook/ use meal delivery boxes/ shop online) to try and free up some time for either more sleep or a little bit of exercise (preferably something that gets you outside for at least 30 mins a day)

I also find intermittent fasting gives me much better energy levels through the day but I've fallen off the wagon with this since Xmas.