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Why is it considered so bad to use HRT for reasons of "vanity"?

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santalisticle · 10/01/2024 14:41

Taking off from another thread on here where it seemed one critique of HRT is that people take it for vanities sake and to delay aging and wrinkles. I am wondering would taking it for the sake of preserving the health and appearance of your skin, hair and nails be such a terrible thing?

To be clear I believe most women, myself included who use HRT do so after careful consideration and they take it to relieve the often times debilitating symptoms menopause brings. I just wonder why women are shamed for wanting and enjoying the positive effect supplemental estrogen has on your skin and overall appearance for many women? Yes there are risks with any mediation but there are also risks associated with not using HRT and its up to each of us to decide what is right for us in consultation with our doctors.

I notice a huge benefit to my skin especially when my HRT dose is at the right level for me in that dryness and lines vanish, my skin looks smooth, glowy and youthful again. Am I so wrong for enjoying that benefit or for that benefit being part of the equation as to why I do use it?

I see even women who are very pro HRT play this aspect down probably because they feel it somehow diminishes the validity of arguments for HRT in the eyes of those who seem to see HRT use as frivolous or cheating or as medicalising a natural process. We medicalise many "natural processes" which many illnesses are and save many lives into the bargain so is it really that wrong to take advantage of something that for many women massively improves their quality of life?

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RickyGervaislovesdogs · 22/03/2024 12:19

@TorroFerney 😆No I suppose not, when you put it like that. I’ll try again. No doubt they’ll want me to have my smear, better book that first! Encouraging to see women feel better afterwards.

Emerald13 · 22/03/2024 20:25

When I started hrt after spending a lot of time and money to find that I was perimenopausal at 42, a gyn told me that I had to accept my bad fortune and that some women are unlucky! He said that I can take hrt for only 5 years and that I don’t accept my age! He tried to make me feel guilty for trying to find a treatment for the awful meno symptoms I had saying that I don’t want to age!!!

Emerald13 · 22/03/2024 20:27

I also think that hrt not just helps with symptoms but it helps us to feel normal again and that’s why we feel young on it!

RMG2705 · 23/03/2024 11:25

santalisticle · 10/01/2024 14:41

Taking off from another thread on here where it seemed one critique of HRT is that people take it for vanities sake and to delay aging and wrinkles. I am wondering would taking it for the sake of preserving the health and appearance of your skin, hair and nails be such a terrible thing?

To be clear I believe most women, myself included who use HRT do so after careful consideration and they take it to relieve the often times debilitating symptoms menopause brings. I just wonder why women are shamed for wanting and enjoying the positive effect supplemental estrogen has on your skin and overall appearance for many women? Yes there are risks with any mediation but there are also risks associated with not using HRT and its up to each of us to decide what is right for us in consultation with our doctors.

I notice a huge benefit to my skin especially when my HRT dose is at the right level for me in that dryness and lines vanish, my skin looks smooth, glowy and youthful again. Am I so wrong for enjoying that benefit or for that benefit being part of the equation as to why I do use it?

I see even women who are very pro HRT play this aspect down probably because they feel it somehow diminishes the validity of arguments for HRT in the eyes of those who seem to see HRT use as frivolous or cheating or as medicalising a natural process. We medicalise many "natural processes" which many illnesses are and save many lives into the bargain so is it really that wrong to take advantage of something that for many women massively improves their quality of life?

Well said.

RMG2705 · 23/03/2024 11:39

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 22/03/2024 11:12

Ah thanks for the reply. I was hoping there was a test I could ask for. Can’t get it for love nor money. Debating going private. For me, night sweats, flushes, RAGE, insomnia, brain fog. G.P said as I still have periods I don’t need it and that I don’t have wrinkles, dry skin or gray hair! (I colour my bloody hair). Gave me citralopram - awful stuff (for me anyway). I can’t afford to feel like that. Haven’t bothered going back, not even for my smear. I’m really done with the surgery in general.

Hope you are feeling better @TorroFerney .

I'm sorry you are having such a terrible time.
Nice guidelines are clear any women 45 or older is considered permenpausal. You should be offered hrt as first line treatment for the symptoms you have described not antidepressants. They have to consider your request as informed patient choice. They are not dictators. You have choice. Complain to the practice manager, in writing. And please get your smear done. It is so important to keep up with screening. If need be change gp. X

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 24/03/2024 08:10

Thank you @RMG2705 I will book in, I’ll be quoting some of the good advice here and taking the NICE guidelines with me.

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