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Pregnancy risk on mirena with perimenopause?

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Marrongrass · 01/01/2024 15:30

Wasn't sure whether to post this in relationships or here, but as it's basically a technical question I thought I'd try here.

DP has health anxiety and general anxiety. Yesterday he suddenly got scared I might get pregnant as we've been having sex almost daily for a week (long-distance relationship so taking advantage of a rare week together: I wouldn't normally have the stamina 😆).

But...I have a mirena coil, inserted nearly two years ago, I use daily eostrogel...and...I'm 48!

I'm not getting periods on mirena, though occasionally very light bleeding (the last over three months ago and my gynaecologist said to up my eostrogel to 3 pumps, which I did and it stopped).

DP wants reassurance. I googled lots and personally I have no worries whatsoever, but I couldn't find anything that showed risks of pregnancy with mirena and age combined. I tried remembering GCSE maths enough to come up with a vague estimate of a 0.2 in 10,000 risk, but I have no idea whether that's just random.

Anyone able to reassure/offer a good link/do maths?

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CandyLeBonBon · 01/01/2024 15:31

If he wants to avoid pregnancy tell him to wear a condom

Marrongrass · 01/01/2024 15:41

CandyLeBonBon · 01/01/2024 15:31

If he wants to avoid pregnancy tell him to wear a condom

I'm hoping the risk is so very low that we don't need to. I think it's likely he'll insist on it, though!

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MissSmiley · 01/01/2024 15:44

I thought the merina was a reliable form of contraception, not necessary to use condoms too surely

CandyLeBonBon · 01/01/2024 15:51

MissSmiley · 01/01/2024 15:44

I thought the merina was a reliable form of contraception, not necessary to use condoms too surely

My point is that if HE is worried, then HE needs to take ownership of HIS contraception.

Marrongrass · 01/01/2024 16:00

CandyLeBonBon · 01/01/2024 15:51

My point is that if HE is worried, then HE needs to take ownership of HIS contraception.

Absolutely: my worry is rather that he'll go too far that way, as his anxiety can get ott!

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CandyLeBonBon · 01/01/2024 16:01

Has he seen his gp to address this extreme anxiety?

Pifful · 01/01/2024 16:02

Very, very unlikely IMO.

Marrongrass · 01/01/2024 16:15

CandyLeBonBon · 01/01/2024 16:01

Has he seen his gp to address this extreme anxiety?

Yes, many, many times, though not about this latest manifestation of it. I suspect any sensible GP would suggest wearing a condom or having a vasectomy if that worried, which is likely to be experienced by DP as a validation of his fears and heighten his anxiety. So I'd rather find some simple links to research showing the risks.

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