Feeling meh, lonely and like life is a lot of effort.

[FeelAloneWithPeopleAroundMe]

I've put this thread here because I think it is age, and mindset related, but not necessarily meno symptom related. Hope that is OK.

Mid 50's, and just feeling a bit mehhhh at the moment. I feel so very lonely, with lots of people around me.

I've got a P/T job I don't really like, but the people are lovely. I live somewhere I am not from, and have found it hard to make friends. I have acquaintances, but these people have shown that they aren't real friends. My DC are nearing the time to go to Uni and after that I will have a massive hole in my life. My DH works long hours and often is away and even when here, isn't really a person who have much sympathy or empathy for any issues I may have. My siblings live far away and don't really bother with anyone.

I feel like I have to hustle everything. I was a SAHM for a long time and I had to massively hustle to get back into work. I even had to do voluntary work for 18 months to get a reference to get a job! I've had to join things to meet people. I took up a sport to meet people and I really enjoyed it, but then I tore my rotator cuff and I have been out of action for 2 months and still have some way to go before it is fine and I can get back to it. In fact, I have done a lot of sport to fend off the menopause symptoms and it worked so far, but now I feel really low.

So, I am looking ahead at 2024 and I just feel that I move one step forward and then 2 steps back. I feel like I hustle all the time, I pick myself up all the time, and then something pulls me back, like snakes and ladders.

Anyone else feel like this? Are 50's, just.....shit?

HRT?

It's hard to magically change a mindset, so easy to say count your blessings but if you feel really low it's hard to see the wood for the trees.

Just try and do a day/a step at a time. Yes consider hrt if it is unbearable but rather than think you can't do sport because of a rotator cuff injury do lots of walking instead or running. What is it about your job you don't like, is it too challenging, too boring, what? Many people aren't keen on their jobs but needs must and if you like the people you work with that is a plus.

Life is hard. I'm not sure I'd call it hustling to get things done but effort is usually part and parcel of it all.

Read up more on the menopause and hrt but as I say in the meantime get out walking in the fresh air and try to focus on the postives in your life a bit.

I understand where you are coming from and there is just this feeling at this age like a sad loss feeling and seem to have lost that sense of excitement for the future. You seem to be doing well and push yourself forward and hopefully you will recover and get back to the activity you love.
As we get older people seem to have less time to share and it can be lonely. Have you considered hrt as it can give the mood a lift. Sending warm hugs and hope things improve for you xx