It sounds like the progesterone in the patches are causing the mood swings, I’m the same, in fact I’m very intolerant.
There is a HRT called Tridestra, it’s tablet form. It’s 3 months of estrogen only followed by progesterone along with the estrogen, then a withdrawal bleed. This was wonderful for me, I could tolerate the short blast of progesterone but the tablets have lactose in them and I’m bloody lactose intolerant 🤦♀️🤬
I now have estrogen patches for 3 months then the progesterone, advised by a specialist not a G.P. Progesterone for me is hideous, I turn into someone my husband doesn’t recognise, I never got on with the pill for this reason.
It’s taken me 3 years to get it right, I’ve tried most of the regimes, believe me I am better on it and would never give it up. My sister in law is 58 and decided to go au natural, she now has osteoporosis pretty bad and is already breaking bones easily.
The progesterone I have is medroxyprogesterone, this is what’s also in the Tridestra regime. Ask the G.P to let you try it, not a lot of people know about it, I was prescribed it by my menopause specialist. Don’t give up, life for me is so much better on it. I also have testosterone for energy and libido.