Suddenly I'm weird.

[silverffox]

I wasn't, not previously.
Suddenly I am weird. No friends. No one seems to want to make friends. Had our DCs young. We're looking at a new life winding down to retirement. Former friends DCs are doing GCSEs, A levels or starting uni.

Me and DH don't like each other anymore. He doesn't like me. I have forgotten what he is like when he is nice.

10 years ago life was busy. We thrived like that.
Now I am alone and depressed. Can't take antidepressants.

Edit: Sorry, I just realised this was on the menopause board. It just came up in trending. I probably shouldn’t have commented, apologies!

I’m only 30 but feel the same. I feel like I’ve been depressed for a long time, can’t get access to talking therapy and don’t want to take antidepressants. I have 2 kids under 10 and I’m constantly trying my best to be ‘normal’ around them but it’s not easy.

I’ve always been considered ‘weird’. I’ve always struggled to maintain friendships and I have a large family and I’m not close with any of them. I’m treated like a black sheep for no reason other than they’re all closer in age and I was born years later.

I do have my DH though, we are like best friends but I know that’s not set in stone and relationships can easily change. I can’t rely on that one connection and would love to build some friendships but it never, ever seems to work out.

My dog is great though and so are my kids, sometimes I feel ashamed being around them though because I’m not enjoying my life the way I should be.

I agree about the people to go to concerts with thing 😂

Find a group or club or a interest you have.
Do you have a dog to take for walks?
Why stay in an unhappy relationship?
Hormones suck and cause some way ward feelings emotions, so what.
As long as you're not being like your mum, find some happiness.
Get out of the usual or change afew routines.
Take a break away yourself.. just not be afraid to be alone and start afresh.

I know exactly how you feel. The menopause has really made me feel at odds with the world. At work, I can feel really out of sorts in environments that I'd normally be fine with. I feel like everyone really doesn't like me, but got absolutely no evidence for that. I'm really having to battle on through and I'm usually quite robust. Its also been like this since the pandemic so I'm wondering if that had more of an impact than I realise when I had to WFH every day

Yes, lots of people say they can’t be bothered going out since covid.

Hearing the title of this thread to the tune of KTTunstalls Suddenly I See. It'll be alright OP, we're with you 🤩🌸