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I just walked the entire South West Coast Path

126 replies

babybluefish · 31/10/2023 07:46

For four years I had been slowly losing myself in the fog of menopausal rage, anxiety, insomnia and weight gain.

My bedside drawer was filling with remedies and supplements that did little to ease my symptoms.

Walking was the only thing that kept me on the right side of sanity, and quite possibly of prison.

From July to October I walked alone the 630 mile South West Coast Path.

AMA

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CousinGoldfinch · 31/10/2023 09:17

That's fantastic!
Please do you have a link to the tarpaulin and sleep pod you used? Walking and camping wild is a bucket list item of mine.

TotalOverhaul · 31/10/2023 09:18

Wow. Now read all your posts.Ignore my previous qus.

I want to know how you handled whortleberry shotgun man.

And what sort of man wanted a wife swap with a hairy-chinned cackling beast that hadn't washed in a week and demanded his cheese.

And what are your top kit tips. What kit did you use and love every day because it was so good at its job?

TotalOverhaul · 31/10/2023 09:19

Also, did you always love camping?

i love hiking so much but am limited in hikes by my utter hatred of a bad night's sleep. And camping is never a good night's sleep.

babybluefish · 31/10/2023 09:19

TotalOverhaul · 31/10/2023 09:09

You are my hero. I LOVE walking. But I hate camping and wild camping scares me rigid. I would love to be brave and resilient enough to do this. I want to hear all about it.

Did the people whose gardens you slept in know about it? Grin
Did you do it all in one go or take breaks between stretches/
How many miles a day?
What were the highlights?
(I've not yet RTFT but will so ignore these qus if you;ve answered them elsewhere. Now off to RTFT.

I love your enthusiasm, thank you.

Yes, they did know!

One lady who invited me to pitch on her lawn had walked alone to Everest Base Camp carrying her own kit 30 years previously.
She cooked me breakfast and we chatted in her kitchen until almost midnight.

The only stipulation was that I had to pack away my kit before her gardener arrived to see who had been making the bitch stains on her lawn.

Another time I was lost and met a couple walking four dogs.

They told me to go on ahead and camp in their garden.

It was tricky pitching between the piles of dog poo.

You can read a hefty free extract of my e-book on Amazon.

"I'm no Shakespeare: Walking the South West Coast Path"

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babybluefish · 31/10/2023 09:21

disappearingfish · 31/10/2023 08:09

So jealous. If I had known I would have offered you a bed, a shower and a beer when you passed by my Cornish town

Thank you. So kind!

I would have turned your bath into a filthy farm trough.

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HereComesColinFrissel · 31/10/2023 09:22

Congratulations what a wonderful achievement! I would love to do this, I've done sections of it over a few days but that is fantastic.

No questions, just a bit jealous and a huge congratulations 🎉

babybluefish · 31/10/2023 09:25

3WildOnes · 31/10/2023 09:16

I was just reading about this on your Facebook page that is linked to your seasonal job. It sounds amazing! I definitely want to do this when my children are grown. I will read your book.

Wow.
I love Mumsnet
I've been here since my youngest was 2 and he's almost 22 now!
Thank you 😊

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blobby10 · 31/10/2023 09:26

@babybluefish I'm another person who thinks you are amazing! Walking the SW coast Path is also on my bucket list but I know I will prevaricate and make so many excuses that I will never get to do it in one go. I love the thought of camping and would happily go without showers for a few days!

SausageAndEggSandwich · 31/10/2023 09:31

Would love to know more about the kit you took - clothes, sleeping bag, mat etc

Was there anything you brought that you didn't need much, or anything you had to buy on the way?

babybluefish · 31/10/2023 09:32

itsmyp4rty · 31/10/2023 08:46

How fantastic! I love a multiday hike, sadly I always sleep very badly in a tent as i end up cold, damp, uncomfortable or disturbed by noise outside - so it's much more difficult to keep it cheap.

So how do you manage to sleep well in a tent night after night?

It's true that sleep isn't always the best in a tent, but I think my menopausal night sweats and anxiety jolting me awake if my insomnia ever did allow me to drop off, had given me good training.

I also have a very lovely husband who snores, so the sounds of nature and the sea were soporific by comparison.

I was generally very warm in my lightweight down sleeping bag.

Also as if by magic the cool night breeze that blew under my tarp each night also blew away any menopausal symptoms.

The main discomfort was needing, several times a night, to extricate myself from my zipped bag, locate the zips to my bug net, and then manoeuvre my way across a slug minefield to my all purpose beaker 😊

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Justcannot · 31/10/2023 09:32

But how did you cope without a Boogie?

(I also love that book, hence the SW coast path has been on my bucket list since being a teen). Very jealous!

babybluefish · 31/10/2023 09:36

CousinGoldfinch · 31/10/2023 09:17

That's fantastic!
Please do you have a link to the tarpaulin and sleep pod you used? Walking and camping wild is a bucket list item of mine.

It was an Alpkit Tarp Star 1

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babybluefish · 31/10/2023 09:39

Justcannot · 31/10/2023 09:32

But how did you cope without a Boogie?

(I also love that book, hence the SW coast path has been on my bucket list since being a teen). Very jealous!

When I tried to walk 30yrs ago with my son we had an imaginary dig called Dogger who was very naughty!

This time it was all I could bear to sleep with my own socks, let alone a mucky hound or even, God forbid, a man.

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babybluefish · 31/10/2023 10:02

SausageAndEggSandwich · 31/10/2023 09:31

Would love to know more about the kit you took - clothes, sleeping bag, mat etc

Was there anything you brought that you didn't need much, or anything you had to buy on the way?

I wore big black supermarket pants and a black sports bra which doubled as a bikini.

I've never worn a bikini in my life but all my inhibitions just vanished during this walk.

I had two lightweight t-shirts from Mountain Warehouse and a merino long sleeved top.

One pair of lightweight trousers that had zips to transform into shorts. I always used them as trousers.

One pair of merino leggings.

Two pairs of double layer hiking socks.

One thin merino pair of socks.

A buff

Turquoise crocs

A set of waterproofs.

My mat was an inflatable one but it started to spring a leak at Looe.

I swapped it for a fold out sponge one at Plymouth. More bulky and a bit harder, but light, 100 percent reliable, and less faff.

I had one down bag but added a down quilt in mid September.

A bivvy. I put my bag inside my bivvy to sleep to avoid condensation dripping on my bag from my single skinned tent.

A stove, an MSR pocket rocket

A spork, which I lost in a public toilet in Penzance and had to replace.

An emergency torch and whistle.

A fantastic 13 function penknife which I used to open bottles of beer and to perform blister surgery.

My phone, charger and power bank.

My wash kit comprised a comb, nail scissors, tweezers (but I couldn't see to use them so just let things sprout), an all in one hair and body soap, toothpaste and toothbrush.

I held out til Treen without deodorant, then caved and bought a Dove roll on as my luxury item.

I bought a pair of orgasmic sealskinz waterproof socks in Newquay, and also upgraded my pac-a-mac waterproofs.

The lady in the tea room at Heartland Point also successfully upsold me a pair of turquoise alpaca socks.

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babybluefish · 31/10/2023 10:13

TotalOverhaul · 31/10/2023 09:18

Wow. Now read all your posts.Ignore my previous qus.

I want to know how you handled whortleberry shotgun man.

And what sort of man wanted a wife swap with a hairy-chinned cackling beast that hadn't washed in a week and demanded his cheese.

And what are your top kit tips. What kit did you use and love every day because it was so good at its job?

An extract for you 😁

Since the very beginning of my walk it had been my left leg that had had the twin niggles of a blister, and the painful anterior tibialis that had been exacerbated by the hard surface walking of the Tarka Trail.

Both ailments had thankfully soon resolved.

Now it was my right leg's turn to suddenly develop an inflamed anterior tibialis.

Tibialis sounds like a Roman emperor, but if he is then I can assure you that he is not one of the good ones.

My walking had become slower, at times threatening to shift into reverse.

I was grateful for the left leg's soldiering on, and taking the strain for his injured compatriot.

Walkers passed me often, and most of them were keen to stop for a chat.

A group of four older people, my age, showed concern over my shuffling progress.

Before speeding off, they asked if anyone knew where I was.

Sis has found an app, called Polarsteps, that plots my position.

I can't argue that I am packing carbs like Scott, before it all started to go wrong, but I also can't help but laugh at the name Polarsteps.

I imagine myself wearing sealskin and pulling a sledge heroically across the poles, not mincing on a gammy leg, begging small packets of Cathedral City and baguette and Dairy Milk from a complete stranger.

Mike, my age, from Cardiff, a serious trail walker, bore down on me from behind, carrying a huge pack full of dehydrated food and Dairy Milk.

He had spent the last evening in a hotel in Westward Ho! and was raring to go, with strong legs, and a mission to get to Rick Stein's in Padstow by next Saturday.

We greeted each other as I got caught up in his slipstream, and he slowed and suggested we walk together.

Mike was a chatty man, with a great sense of humour, whose wife abhorred walking and had gone on a beach holiday with her friends.

I told him that my husband liked walking, and by coincidence had also just been on a beach holiday with his friends.

Mike laughed conspiratorially, and suggested we should swap.

I immediately got out my phone, opened my notes app, and spoke the words dramatically as I typed them.

'Mike', 'Cardiff', 'Wife swap'.

Mike looked alarmed, and I told him, with an innocent smile, that I was writing a book.

He made no further mention of swaps.

At Bucks Hills, after meeting up again with the previous group of four walkers, Mike shared his lunch with me.

The conversation between us all was interesting, centering on epigenetics and on whether exercise really makes any difference to weight.

I managed to add something to the conversation along the lines of it now taking thirteen breaths instead of seventeen to inflate my mattress.

But really all I could think about, Labrador-like, was whether Mike would offer me any more of his Dairy Milk.

After lunch the group of now five pulled ahead, and I continued alone, happily lost in my thoughts, at my snail's pace.

With each day that passed, some, like now, with barely any distinction between day and night, I felt myself slipping further and further into the delicious deep waters and the merry madness of the lone long distance walker.

I walked past an electrified fence, trying to fight the irresistible urge to touch it, 'just to see'.

Whilst simultaneously wondering if there was any way I could harness its power to charge my waning telephone battery.

A lady complimented me on my "colours", which are predominantly turquoise.

I thanked her and answered, in all seriousness, that I had had my colours done in Cotswold Outdoors.

Well I am no Boris, but it is really not hard to make the public believe any old nonsense.

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Iheartmysmart · 31/10/2023 10:30

I’ve just downloaded your book and very much look forward to reading it. Can’t wait to have more free time and sufficient funds to do something like this myself.

DonnaGiovanna · 31/10/2023 10:33

You may well have walked past me (only on the bits that are local to me though).

How did you work up to this? How might a hypothetical soft-footed menopausal woman (naming no names) prepare for something like this?

babybluefish · 31/10/2023 11:02

DonnaGiovanna · 31/10/2023 10:33

You may well have walked past me (only on the bits that are local to me though).

How did you work up to this? How might a hypothetical soft-footed menopausal woman (naming no names) prepare for something like this?

Another very good question.

For years my sole form of disciplined exercise has been to do 100 squats every time I use the bathroom.

As I've got older, and my hips wider, these bathroom visits have naturally increased, and more of what I can only describe as pure yoga like contortions have been required to be able to squat in ever tighter spaces.

I really only got fit on the path by simply trusting that any forward motion, no matter how small, would be enough.

A benefit of that was that also I never really got up enough friction to cause serious blisters.

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CornishGem1975 · 31/10/2023 11:07

Sounds amazing!

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 31/10/2023 11:09

I dream of doing this, and some long distance cycling too when I am older. I keep buying books in the "Lost Lanes of..." series.

Unfortunately having a baby at 41 (she's now 12) and dh being made redundant means I won't be retiring anytime soon 🤞the mibd, body and knees hold out

babybluefish · 31/10/2023 11:15

Long distance cycling appeals to me too.
I would love to cycle the Danube, but don't even know if it is possible.
Hang on to your dream and take care of your relevant body parts.

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BrimfulOfMash · 31/10/2023 11:28

How did you charge your phone for the WhatsApp msgs etc?

I was on the Dorset path between Branscome and Eype this September, and also love the places you mention. And the views from Beer Head. Lovely Golden Cap.

PauliesWalnuts · 31/10/2023 11:39

I can recommend the Coast 2 Coast (Walney Island to Whitby route) as a very pretty and easily navigable route (apart from the Long Causeway to the Tan Hill Inn where there was pushing involved!). Other half and I bike packed it over 4 days, staying in B&Bs. Looking at the Rebellion Way next year.

Movinghouseatlast · 31/10/2023 11:41

Wow! That's amazing. I am lucky enough to live on the South West Coast path but I only walk my bit of it!

Did you hate Polruan to Polperro? It's an absolute killer I think. Maybe a better question is what was the hardest part?

babybluefish · 31/10/2023 11:58

BrimfulOfMash · 31/10/2023 11:28

How did you charge your phone for the WhatsApp msgs etc?

I was on the Dorset path between Branscome and Eype this September, and also love the places you mention. And the views from Beer Head. Lovely Golden Cap.

I would find sockets in cafes and campsites wherever I could, and I also upgraded my charger and lead to very fast models halfway through my journey.

I carried a power bank too, which I also changed for a better one.

My old power bank was given as a gift to the lady who kindly let me stay in her garden.

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