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wife menopause

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dadoftwo1 · 17/09/2023 21:46

Dear All,

I am a father of two (11 and 17 year olds). I got remarried 3 years ago to someone who is similar age to me (49/50).

The marriage has been difficult very early in. She doesnt have kids, but suffering now from Peri Menopause, he screams and swears all the time and had also hit me serveral times. Or had difficultly controlling her behavour when her period is due. she spoils everything and cannot control her temper. Do i continue in this abuse or do i just quit not. I am trying to be supportive but i just feel she is taking no reasonability for her own actions.

OP posts:

lunar1 · 17/09/2023 21:48

Do you want your children to continue to be exposed to a violent and abusive woman?

theduchessofspork · 17/09/2023 21:49

No this is abuse.

Protect your kids and get her out asap

MrTiddlesTheCat · 17/09/2023 21:51

This isn't menopause or peri-menopause, it's abuse.

Vintagecreamandcottagepie · 17/09/2023 21:58

She may have pmdd.

Would she see a specialist? I have a name if she would. Just pm me.

But if she won't seek help, and quickly, no the behaviour is not good.

crackfoxy · 17/09/2023 22:14

This is unacceptable behaviour, menopause or not. If she is unwilling to seek help I would leave.

PimpMyFridge · 17/09/2023 22:17

Screaming and hitting is not reasonable.
Even if she is being severely affected by her hormones she should be seeking help not just lashing out.
I think if her attitude is that you should just accept it and support her then run for the hills. If she is remorseful and wanting to change then maybe give her chance to go to the doctor and get done medical support for the problem, with an expectation that this changes or you part company.

menopausalmare · 17/09/2023 22:21

I'm menopausal and I do not shout, scream or hit. She sounds vile and abusive. Time to get rid.

JinglingSpringbells · 18/09/2023 08:49

Menopause can affect some women very badly. it's not that rare for marriages to break up at this time.

Have you had a conversation with her when she is not shouting at you?
It seems a big jump to go from shouting and hitting (not acceptable) to divorce without something in the middle to try to resolve this.

Is she willing to seek medical advice and treatment?

That's the first step and also perhaps encouraging her to talk to other women like herself for support.

There are plenty of online support groups on Facebook where she can offload rather than shouting at you!

Janiie · 18/09/2023 10:14

She's hit you op, this is domestic violence and you need professional support and advice. Maybe ask for this to be moved to relationships you may get more comments.

Sorry you're experiencing this but put your dc first and protect them from this toxic environment.

Geppili · 18/09/2023 20:35

This is domestic violence and I would put my money on her having severe PMDD. She needs help and so do you and most of all the kids.

Geppili · 18/09/2023 20:38

iapmd.org/

Contact them for advice for yourself and tour wife.

Rexxxxxx · 18/09/2023 20:44

this is not menopausal behaviour

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