Hello..I've had some lovely replies from people over the past few weeks who have helped me at a time when I don't know what to do or where to go next ..I'm 47 and have been having menopause symptoms for a few years but the last 6 months it has affected my life so bad it's scaring me ..I first saw my doctor 3 weeks ago and I walked into the appointment a mess ..I cried to her and told her my symptoms ..I'm waking up at 3 in the morning drenched in sweat so I sit in my garden to try and escape the horrible anxious episode I'm waking up with,my anxiety is so bad I'm shaking throughout the day with hit flushes , palpitations,my sex drive has completely gone and I've got vaginal dryness ..she said hrt will help and she said I needed a blood test ..I had had a blood test 3 weeks before for something different so she asked the lab to take some hormone results from that and she would see me again in a week..she even sent me home with a leaflet all about hrt ..she called me a week later and said your bloods are normal but you can still go on hrt and she asked if she could call me back while she looked into which hrt to give me ..2 days later still no call back and by this time I just wanted my nightmare to end ..I chased her up crying down the phone telling her I'm worried about how I'm feeling and my state of mind ..she then said I've spoken to my gyno friend who has said your not going through menopause it's pms ..I was so shocked I couldn't breath ..it made me feel like I was being dramatic .I said I've had pms all my life I know it's not that ..she wouldn't listen to me and didn't even talk to after that about any of my symptoms..I said I need help and she gave me the mini pill ..the ones you can buy from the chemist ..ive been bounced backwards and forwards since then each time hitting a brick wall ..I was referred to what was supposed to be a menopause clinic ..I got there yesterday to be told by the doctor she can't help me because they only deal with gyno not menopause that's my GPS job..she also said if my periids are not as heavy at my age I should be having biopsy and scans ..all these doctors I am seeing are older women..my hair is also now falling out ..stress or menopause I don't know ..I'm very very scared that this is life for me now ..I don't know what to do ..I feel numb .if it wasn't for having this forum I don't know what I would do ..