So bloody tired, no motivation

[Whatthechicken]

I’m 44, the fatigue and tiredness I’m experiencing at the moment is like when I had Covid (or pregnant). If I sit down, I will close my eyes and fall asleep. Then if I do nap, I end up not going to bed until the early hours, so this feels like a vicious cycle. I also forget words for some everyday objects, my periods have become heavier, more painful (and slightly more irregular). If I eat a large meal, I suffer for hours, and I feel a lack of motivation for pretty much everything in life. At the moment, I only do things, because they need doing. I was feeling more anxious up until a few months ago - now I feel like I don’t even have the bandwidth for anxiety. I’m guessing I’m in the throes of peri-menopause now. What can I do to alleviate these symptoms - or at least make me a bit more functional in the short term? I’m guessing - eat well, exercise and sleep will be recommended, but is there anything else that will push me over this motivational barrier? Because right now, I don’t even have the energy or will to even change my current habits.

Get vitamin B complex and vitamin D for energy.
Magnesium L-Threonate for menopause brain, and magnesium glycinate for sleep. Be careful what your total magnesium intake is.
Get a good, constant sleep routine.
Think about a Mirena coil for the heavy periods, might be worth getting g your iron checked too

Sorry to hear you're struggling. It might also be worth having a blood test as I experienced the same things and was found to be very anaemic. I ended up having an infusion and felt like I'd been reborn. Hope you feel better soon!

I’d give up alcohol too, and get into exercise. Make it a routine now.
Id take some good quality omega 3 for the inevitable achy joints too.

Yes do get checked out for other conditions (anaemia, thyroid) because the menopause is such a vague and long lasting thing we can't just put everything down to that - you could miss a diagnosis of something else and suffer longer than you have to.

It’s a relief to hear that non of what I posted was a shock, to be honest - going to go to the chemist tomorrow for the vitamins. Sleep hygiene is awful atm. Because I nap in an evening and then wake up early hours, I don’t want to wake the rest of the house, so end up sleeping downstairs! I am definitely wasting my life, but have little motivation to change. Going to go to bed before 10 tonight, need to get some great books in - so I want to go to bed. I used to love reading and I’d devour books before I had kids. Yes to the exercising and reducing alcohol, but I think I need to get back on kilter before I feel able to tackle the exercise. I have an acre of garden that needs tending - but I just can’t be arsed at the minute, even though I really enjoy it. I need to find that joy again. Thanks for responding everyone. Bits and sleep first points of call.

*vits