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38 and losing my mind!

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Gistbury · 08/04/2023 07:42

I'm 38 with 3dc and lovely husband. Recently at times I've felt completely overwhelmed, tearful and full of rage. It's not all of the time but every few weeks it erupts in me out of nowhere and I am completely floored by it. My husband takes it personally and argues back which completely escalates the fury!

Could it be early menopause? No other symptoms unless hip ache is a symptom?
I could use some help as I don't want this to keep happening

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CreationNat1on · 08/04/2023 08:05

Hip ache is a symptom.

I also get the extreme pms, but don't rage at people, sulk instead. Exercise helps to control the rage. Less alcohol, and recognise that the extreme feelings will subside, try not to act on them.

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Gistbury · 08/04/2023 08:08

CreationNat1on · 08/04/2023 08:05

Hip ache is a symptom.

I also get the extreme pms, but don't rage at people, sulk instead. Exercise helps to control the rage. Less alcohol, and recognise that the extreme feelings will subside, try not to act on them.

Thank you so much. I will try not to act on them going forward, not finding that particularly easy atm. I appreciate your reply and hope things improve 🤞

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DustyLee123 · 08/04/2023 08:10

Bad PMT was my first symptom, and it was always directed at DH.

UpUpUpU · 08/04/2023 08:13

I am 39 and have been perimenopausal for about 18 months now. The rage and PMT is horrendous. I used to completely lose it at the tiniest of things. It wasn't sustainable for me as a single parent with young child so the doctor prescribed fluoxetine which has worked a treat. It does nothing for the anxiety though :(

LouLou198 · 08/04/2023 08:16

I was just the same at 39. Been on Citalopram for a year now and it has really helped.

themimi · 08/04/2023 08:39

I think you need to talk to a doctor before this really damages your relationship with your husband and children

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Gistbury · 08/04/2023 12:05

Thank you for the replies. I'm going to keep a real eye on this. Thankfully I am feeling quite content and steady most of the time and it is out of character for me to have these episodes. If it persists I will contact the doctor.

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Whaeanui · 08/04/2023 12:35

I’d agree with pp’s, it was ‘early’ for me too and I waited too long to address it. Some specialists say any woman 40 or over is in perimenopause. Some more symptomatic than others. NICE guidelines say to go by symptoms from 45, and testing before that. Don’t wait too long in case you are low in Estrogen as that has physical and permanent effects on the body.

kwetu · 08/04/2023 12:50

I can really associate with all you've said, I was at times absolutely vile and knew it but could not stop it, had to fight for 6 years to get HRT and was also prescribed citalopram which has been an absolute lifesaver in levelling out my moods. Best of luck.

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