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Anything to get rid of the flat feeling that’s not HRT

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DustyLee123 · 03/03/2023 13:38

I absolutely do not want HRT.
Has anyone found anything to give you your spark back ? To make me want go on holidays and days out again ? I just can’t be bothered.
I’ve had great results from using magnesium for sleep etc, and wondered if there was anything that people have had success with.

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DustyLee123 · 08/03/2023 07:12

I do go to the gym a couple of times a week, and I walk the dog. I’m not depressed, I enjoy my work, it’s the not wanting to do the days out and holidays that I used to love.
Perhaps it’s the little things that add up, like I don’t want to get stuck in traffic, I don’t want to get there and find there’s no parking, I want to be able to wee whenever I want, I dont want to battle through the airport and sit on a plane with annoying people, be awake very early because I only sleep well in my own bed, battle for a sun bed etc, etc. I like my home.

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Xrays · 08/03/2023 07:15

DustyLee123 · 08/03/2023 07:12

I do go to the gym a couple of times a week, and I walk the dog. I’m not depressed, I enjoy my work, it’s the not wanting to do the days out and holidays that I used to love.
Perhaps it’s the little things that add up, like I don’t want to get stuck in traffic, I don’t want to get there and find there’s no parking, I want to be able to wee whenever I want, I dont want to battle through the airport and sit on a plane with annoying people, be awake very early because I only sleep well in my own bed, battle for a sun bed etc, etc. I like my home.

I think all of these things are normal feelings, well they are for me anyway. I am on HRT and feel like this all the time (I’m actually 42 and went into early menopause at 37 so it’s not even particularly an age thing with me really, maybe I’m just like this?!) HRT is beneficial for bone and heart health so I’m glad I’m taking it and I sleep better but I’m still the same misery…!

Sussyknowsthemeaningoflife · 08/03/2023 07:17

Absolutely agree with all of those points 😅
so as pp said, maybe it's just a life stage and holidays are not for you ( us) anymore.
Would your dh consider travelling alone?

AssignedNorthern · 08/03/2023 07:18

This is a really useful thread OP thanks for starting it I'm making lots of notes as this empty feeling and lack of motivation are my only symptoms and I don't want HRT yet either.

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DustyLee123 · 08/03/2023 07:19

The other thing that I’ve just realised bothers me is that we sleep separately due to his snoring and acting out nightmares. I’ve no desire to share a bed with him ever again, so perhaps subconsciously that’s also stopping me.

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DustyLee123 · 08/03/2023 07:20

AssignedNorthern · 08/03/2023 07:18

This is a really useful thread OP thanks for starting it I'm making lots of notes as this empty feeling and lack of motivation are my only symptoms and I don't want HRT yet either.

It’s reassuring to find people that feel like me. Makes me realise that I’m not being unreasonable !

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Plirtle · 08/03/2023 07:24

I think this is a bit sad - you are only 51 OP not 71! I can understand the snoring putting you off sharing a bed but surely days out would be OK? Getting up early to drive somewhere lovely and go for a long walk with the dogs together?

Franticbutterfly · 08/03/2023 07:26

@DustyLee123 I did say I was "feeling flat". I'm sure she calls what she does to me "a drain", now she says that I should just go to her when I feel like I need to.

QuinkWashable · 08/03/2023 07:27

I just started St John's Wort (boots high strength) the week before last, and it's transformed me - I was struggling to find the motivation to even do basic stuff like keep the house tidy or shower (ridiculous, because a hot shower is lovely once I'm in there!) and it's like a fog has lifted and my mojo is back, it's definitely worth a try.

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DustyLee123 · 08/03/2023 07:28

Franticbutterfly · 08/03/2023 07:26

@DustyLee123 I did say I was "feeling flat". I'm sure she calls what she does to me "a drain", now she says that I should just go to her when I feel like I need to.

It’s not something I particularly believe in, but I’m willing to try it. Thanks.

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DustyLee123 · 08/03/2023 07:29

QuinkWashable · 08/03/2023 07:27

I just started St John's Wort (boots high strength) the week before last, and it's transformed me - I was struggling to find the motivation to even do basic stuff like keep the house tidy or shower (ridiculous, because a hot shower is lovely once I'm in there!) and it's like a fog has lifted and my mojo is back, it's definitely worth a try.

Thanks, I’ll try it.
Im looking at all of your suggestions, but I won’t try them all at once !

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Xrays · 08/03/2023 07:37

DustyLee123 · 08/03/2023 07:19

The other thing that I’ve just realised bothers me is that we sleep separately due to his snoring and acting out nightmares. I’ve no desire to share a bed with him ever again, so perhaps subconsciously that’s also stopping me.

I think that’s a huge thing. Sleep is so important as we get older - who would want to be next to someone who keeps them awake? No thanks. (My dh also snores like a warthog).

Franticbutterfly · 08/03/2023 07:40

@DustyLee123 You won't believe it when you try it. I felt very nauseous after the second treatment, but after a few hours I was ok, within a week I was a different person.

MissyB1 · 08/03/2023 07:45

It’s useful to read these suggestions as I had breast cancer and although I would love to take HRT I definitely can’t. I always feel like us breast cancer ladies are just expected to suck it all up and just be grateful to be alive - which I am obviously!

JinglingSpringbells · 08/03/2023 08:06

Maybe look into developing some new hobbies and interesting things to do?
I don't think a 'flat feeling' is something that needs meds, more lifestyle changes.

What do you enjoy doing?

Walking, reading, sightseeing, crafty/ creative stuff?

Do you work?

JinglingSpringbells · 08/03/2023 08:07

DustyLee123 · 08/03/2023 07:12

I do go to the gym a couple of times a week, and I walk the dog. I’m not depressed, I enjoy my work, it’s the not wanting to do the days out and holidays that I used to love.
Perhaps it’s the little things that add up, like I don’t want to get stuck in traffic, I don’t want to get there and find there’s no parking, I want to be able to wee whenever I want, I dont want to battle through the airport and sit on a plane with annoying people, be awake very early because I only sleep well in my own bed, battle for a sun bed etc, etc. I like my home.

LOL this is just older age and being less tolerant!

Bramshott · 08/03/2023 21:12

Sometimes I think you do just have to push on through and make yourself do things.

We has a holiday booked last month, and to be honest I was dreading it for all the reasons you cite - I won't sleep, I'll be exhausted, I'll be out of my comfort zone, I'll be around people all the time, I'll have to use strange toilets etc etc

We went and it was amazing - I hadn't realised how much I needed time away! I mean all of the things above were also true, but it was worth it. For full disclosure, I also started HRT 2 weeks before the holiday which I do feel is helping but it's early days.

Missymarple · 08/03/2023 22:20

I had the flat feeling, totally disappeared for me when I started taking HRT. My friend started feeling the same, HRT didn't touch it for her. That's the joy of the menopause, random symptoms and solutions that work for some and not others.

WarriorN · 10/03/2023 09:42

I'm on hrt and initially felt my old sparkle and zest return, but had the flat feeling returned. I found I wasn't in enough and also low in testosterone. I also had mild long covid which began a year ago, after I'd been on hrt about 4 months. Slowly kept raising hrt but didn't really help till a few months on 100. But still had some symptoms.

Oestrogen was recently raised to 125 (Gp happy to go to that based on bloods and symptoms but wouldn't go higher.) and started testosterone.

Only started both 3 weeks ago Unfortunately I've had a string of viruses and covid since Xmas. Including another when this was done and again this week so it's definitely to soon to judge. But I've found im interested in doing the creative things I used to - thinking about them. Which I couldn't even be bothered to do recently

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