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Did menopause make you do anything crazy?

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TeaCakeandWarmHugs · 15/02/2023 21:30

Did menopause hit you suddenly or creep up on you and did you do anything crazy due to hormones going crazy?

My last period was July 2017 (aged 45) and they stopped abruptly. No spotting or anything.

Not taken HRT but have had a really, really hard time and did things which have changed my life. Just wondered if anyone else had done something that has affected their life due to menopausal symptoms. I won’t say what I’ve done just yet. I feel a lot better these days but I feel like I have come out of it a different person. I’m 51 next month.

There is a lack of support out there!

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TeapotTitties · 15/02/2023 21:33

You're asking for people's personal stories without sharing your own first?

Poor form. I don't see why anyone would want to oblige really.

FedUpToTheBackTooth · 15/02/2023 21:38

To be honest, considering this is likely to be a subject covered extensively in the media after the news today, I wouldn’t want to share details on a public forum at the moment. In case the thread gets picked up by the press.

samantha69 · 16/02/2023 16:07

I've had 3 psychotic episodes over the period of 3 years think they are linked to the menopause

samantha69 · 16/02/2023 16:09

It's been scary and devastating for me and my family I'm not on HRT but going to try it currently on medication for the episodes. Are you on medication now?

JaneJeffer · 16/02/2023 16:55

Is this for an article?

Sistanotcista · 16/02/2023 16:57

No HRT either. I didn't do anything crazy, but I was hideously, furiously, outrageously angry at everyone and everything, which was awful until I worked out why.

thedevilinablackdress · 16/02/2023 18:38

Doesn't seem like the right day to be asking this. And highly likely to make the Daily Fail

Slimjimtobe · 16/02/2023 18:39

I agree - it’s not the time to ask this
but I certainly have friends who have really struggled (I’m younger and worried)

samantha69 · 16/02/2023 18:41

Slimjimtobe · 16/02/2023 18:39

I agree - it’s not the time to ask this
but I certainly have friends who have really struggled (I’m younger and worried)

I understand these are my personal experiences I'll post another time

Aposterhasnoname · 16/02/2023 18:42

Why on earth do you think will people will share their stories when you’re not prepared to share yours? That’s not how it works.

xJoy · 16/02/2023 18:43

No, feel a bit chubbier but actually I have better perspective, less hard on myself, I know I'm healthy, less of a people pleaser. I have had a few hot flushes but not too many considering I'm 52. They weren't unbearable. I usually got them when it was hot anyway.

Sorry to bring NB in to this thread but I find it hard to believe that a 45 year old would have ''ongoing'' menopausal issues that would be a factor in her disappearance.

xJoy · 16/02/2023 18:44

thedevilinablackdress · 16/02/2023 18:38

Doesn't seem like the right day to be asking this. And highly likely to make the Daily Fail

yeh, was somebody sent to mumsnet to get a collection of menopause ''horror stories'' Angry

This occurred to me.

Terzani · 16/02/2023 18:49

Nope, and I'm not on HRT either. At 51, you ”have come out of it a different person” because you're older and wiser and more experienced. People grow up and change, maturity is different from youth, it's natural.

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TeaCakeandWarmHugs · 16/02/2023 19:56

I am real and not a journalist or anything. I think some women can suffer really badly and mean do bad that they are totally not on the planet almost. I don’t want to refer to the case in the news at the moment but, for me, I became extremely anxious and detached from reality. These symptoms were worse than hot flushes (that lasted only 6 months). I lost my marriage and my career. I walked away from both. Very destructive.

I just don’t think enough is out there for women.

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TeaCakeandWarmHugs · 16/02/2023 19:57

*so bad not do bad!

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TheFormidableMrsC · 16/02/2023 21:42

I was peri at 40 but then fell pregnant and had a baby at 42, that somehow reset the clock. My periods became very erratic before my 50th birthday and I felt utterly appalling and did stupid things like not knowing how I'd arrived at places that I'd driven to. Putting the keys in the freezer, that sort of thing. Then I got breast cancer and chemo stopped my periods straight away. Not had one in nearly 3 years. However, I can't take HRT so I'm trying to be hyper aware of my moods and I write everything down and manage my symptoms as best o can. My memory is horrendous and it's embarrassing at times. I've got an 11 year old so I have to be on the ball as a lone parent. He gives me side eye about 10 times a day. When my mother had it, she turned into an absolute demon. She was so angry and unhappy. She actually assaulted me. Not like her at all, she'd always been a fab Mum. It really tested her marriage to my Dad. She was unbearable and unreasonable and picked a fight over the smallest thing. We were all on eggshells for a long time. It did pass though. It's bloody shit frankly.

lljkk · 16/02/2023 22:02

No. Not me, didn't happen.
Hope you make peace with whatever you did, OP.

cakewitch · 16/02/2023 22:02

Yep. Absolutely
I'd not even talk about it here though.

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