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nc1013 · 31/01/2023 12:59

How does everyone else deal with this?

My worse symptom (by many miles) are the moods/anger/crying over nothing and I've increasingly been taking this out on those I'm closest to.

This includes my bf but we've only been together a year or so and it's been causing a bit of a strain. I'll be the first to admit I've been much grumpier and snappier over the last 2-3 months and the last 2 weeks seems to be the worst I've been in my life.

I think it would be easier if we'd been together for years and years as he'd know how out of character it is for me.

A couple of weeks ago he says he was having doubts if I even like him as a person and he can't seem to do anything right. He feels like a crap bf as he's always upsetting/frustrating me.

Ive explained it as best I can but tbh it's only in the last 2 weeks or so I've realised how bad I've been feeling and how much my moods have been affecting everyone else too.

Been to the gp for blood tests and started supplements but realistically it'll be a couple of months to get settled (and that's best case).

He's said things like I should talk to him about it but then he doesn't seem to want to talk about it in any depth.

We're both early 40s and he's never been with anyone going through this. I do sympathise and feel guilty about how I've made him feel.

I'm not sure he sympathises with the fact I don't want to be like this and while it's hard for him to be one of the ones I'm taking it out on, it's equally as hard to feel like this 24/7.

It's almost like he thinks I should snap out of it. He's not actually said that btw just the impression I get

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nc1013 · 31/01/2023 13:04

I've always had preset good MH considering what I've been through in life but he doesn't seem to have much sympathy for those with depression etc

For example with colleagues off with stress he says things like he doesn't understand it, everyone has down days and they need to get on with it. Its like a typical old school male view.....

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Pr1mr0se · 22/05/2023 11:26

You don't need to feel guilty, please try not too. Do try and sit down and have that chat about what was normal before for you, how you perceive things now and what you are doing about it.

I don't deal with it well either and feel like my own body and moods are completely alien to me most of the time. Luckily I have a more sympathetic partner who does nice things for me which helps. I don't take HRT but I do have other oestrogen based pills and a good multivitamin which seem to help.

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