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Did menopause affect your relationship/marriage?

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Ickapyre · 01/11/2022 14:35

I feel absolutely everything about me is changing due to peri-menopause. Mentally and physically everyday things (work, homework with kids, shopping, cooking, walking the dog....) are more challenging due to tiredness and anxiety. I am constantly sweating and flustered, my aches and pains have stopped me being able to be as physically active so I have gained weight.

I have started to prioritise my well-being which means setting boundaries and limits to DH and kids. I am about to start HRT which I hope will help. My biggest fear now is that I no longer am the person my DH married and he will not love the new me. I am boring, grey, not good fun or sprightly, my body is going to pot, I am avoiding closeness and intimacy because of lack of confidence...

I have never, ever doubted my relationship with my husband. He has made me feel like the most attractive, smart, funny person in the world for 30 years but now it feels as though I am losing the essence of me that makes him desire and love me. He has not said anything and tbh we have such hectic lifestyles I don't think he's noticed.... yet Wink

I am interested to know how your partners reacted to any changes you went through in menopause and how/if your relationship changed. How did you tackle these changes with your partner? Do you still feel as loved?

OP posts:
Summerhillsquare · 01/11/2022 22:09

Well I got dumped - but it was a fairly casual boyfriend rather than a husband. But yes, I got less fun, more tired, much fatter, I couldn't blame him really.

menohnopausal · 28/01/2024 12:54

Ickapyre · 01/11/2022 14:35

I feel absolutely everything about me is changing due to peri-menopause. Mentally and physically everyday things (work, homework with kids, shopping, cooking, walking the dog....) are more challenging due to tiredness and anxiety. I am constantly sweating and flustered, my aches and pains have stopped me being able to be as physically active so I have gained weight.

I have started to prioritise my well-being which means setting boundaries and limits to DH and kids. I am about to start HRT which I hope will help. My biggest fear now is that I no longer am the person my DH married and he will not love the new me. I am boring, grey, not good fun or sprightly, my body is going to pot, I am avoiding closeness and intimacy because of lack of confidence...

I have never, ever doubted my relationship with my husband. He has made me feel like the most attractive, smart, funny person in the world for 30 years but now it feels as though I am losing the essence of me that makes him desire and love me. He has not said anything and tbh we have such hectic lifestyles I don't think he's noticed.... yet Wink

I am interested to know how your partners reacted to any changes you went through in menopause and how/if your relationship changed. How did you tackle these changes with your partner? Do you still feel as loved?

Ickapyre - hope it's okay for me to resurrect this thread. Your post really resonates with me, and I'm wondering how things are for you now. Kind of hoping for a light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnel story.

longpathtohappiness · 15/03/2024 10:46

Bumping this old post - really identify with this and wonder how everyone how else feels

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