More introverted in menopause

[whatisforteamum]

I've always needed time alone however I've just been on a family mini break and been dragged here there and everywhere.
I need time to recharge and be alone now.
Anyone else get more like this ?
I almost don't need to be sociable or do what other people want anymore.

I think I'm going through peri menopause (had a blood test yesterday) and coincidentally I've been finding myself needing more space and alone time (especially a break from people physically touching me - I have a saying I said to both my daughters and now say to my grandson and they all giggle at it 'I am not a climbing frame', anyway I digress).
I had put this down to emotional growth and healing (2 years of therapy, post divorce) and setting healthy boundaries is showing me I need this time, but you've made me think the changes in my body may be making me need more of it. Something to ponder.

I'm post menopause or at least been going through it for a couple of years and I am much happier on my own , I seem to have lost the ability to socialise and hate being with more than 2 or 3 people. If I meet a casual acquaintance, I can't make small talk , I just want to scurry away.

I am good at small talk I just like to process my own thoughts and do things in the order I like.
My dd was trying to hurry me to make a choice in the shops and got a bit stroppy so I left the items.
Had I been alone a choice would ve been made.
I don't need other people's opinions. 🤣🤣

Yes l agree, l just want to be in my own little bubble and get resentful of others infringing on my time. l have retreated from some friendships l feel I' ve outgrown and only going along with it to please them. l think for the first time in my life I' m putting myself first, l have early starts and feel more tired with the menopause so just want to relax at home in the evening with my pets and books. l don' t care if l' m boring, l' m content .

I agree, I think I could enjoy living alone.
I don’t even like it when DH comes shopping with me anymore. I don’t feel that I can browse and buy whatever I want. And these days I want to have whatever I want !

Moonface123 are you me!
Pets don't answer back do they.

Yup. Increasingly happier alone! I'm not working atm (DC) but have a hobby which means for a full day once a week I'll be surrounded by hundreds of people. I need serious 'people time out' the day (or two) afterwards and preferably the days before to prepare 😅 don't even feel guilty about becoming an antisocial mard!

I'm similar. My favourite thing always used to be setting the world to rights with friends over a glass of wine but increasingly I just want to be left alone. I put it down to a combination of covid and peri.

Yes I agree I work 5 12 hr days and happy to see everyone then leave me alone for 2 days off.
May have always been a bit like this but now I value my own company more.
People are draining.

Anyone sort of emotionally detaching from family as well? To be fair, I have had a horrible past 3 years. Am burnt out but also I just cba any more to fix things. My usual response is "Whatever".

Janefondue yes I can't do drama anymore.
Don't like me...whatever.

I just saw this thread & cried 😂
I am 42 & convinced I'm peri. I feel all over the place; tears, mood swings, fuzzy head, but the big one is people. Always been introverted but I've reached new heights. I see a text come in & want to throw the phone out the window unless it's from my nearest & dearest. A new level of overwhelm, I didn't know I had it in me tbh. I can't bear the bullshit people groan on about, I thought it was just age...

Yes absolutely.

I think my brain can't process things as well when it's busy

Hrt has helped but not fully. I don't know if testosterone would

It was this that really worried me and was one of the things (alongside crippling exhaustion after periods, horrific joint issues, brain fog and insomnia) that forced me to go to Gp and beg for hrt. I was 44 and has queried it previously but fsh was ok.

Obstructingthedoors you made me smile.
I think now the dcs have left home I've become used to the peace and thinking what do I want to do.
Also I'm sure oxytocin is lower in meno so the feel good factor of company is lower.
I love people yet I love my alone time so much.